Scootie:
Under one of the Head and Neck subsections, I once read about a SNUC organization. Were you able to locate such a group? I found SPOHN for head and neck and they were very helpful.
I understand your concern, but I have a thought for you. Our cancer center social worker told us the following story: Her son, then age seven, was diagnosed with leukemia. She was told he would have a 12% chance of survival. She immediately thought the same thing we did "oh well we will definitely make up the 12%. Someone has to, it might as well be us!" He is now 26 years old.
My best to you.
Kara