He's gone!

Sweetbabegirl

I lost my husband of 34 years to EC on February 16, 2008.  I don't think you ever get over it, but it is suppose to get easier.  I know he is still always on my mind and I know everyone grieves in their own way.  I have finally quit crying all day, everyday, and have finally started to remember some of the good times.  There are so many emotions you will feel, but they are normal.  I pray and read the bible a lot, because it helps me to cope.  Talk about him to anyone and everyone, if that helps you.  I have found the more I talk about him, the better I feel, especially to someone who has been through what we have been through.  I can't say that I am tear free yet, nor what works for me will help you, but I hope it does.  

Diana,

My heart goes out to you and the whirlwind of emotions and pain that you are experiencing.  While I cannot say it gets easier, there are good things that can come from this horrible tragedy.

Although I did not lose my husband, I lost my father to EC.  My Dad was fine in January 08 and in Feburary started to feel ill, couldn't swallow well, and lost almost 30 pounds.  He was diagnosed on March 6th with stage IV EC with mets to the liver, and passed away on March 28th, the day after his first chemo treatment.  It was 3 weeks from diagnosis to death and even today still seems surreal.  Here I was pushing for him to start the chemo and tame the "beast" as we called it, and it is what killed him... still unbelievable.

I cannot say that it get's easier, yet, but the pain changes.  There are days we are all okay and days the pain is so sharp I cannot breathe.  My mom has been okay, but her reality without my dad has seemed to hit home lately and she has had some tough, tough days.

Several positive things have come out of my dad's passing.  We all truly appreciate eachother, and the people in our live's much more, and we no longer waste any time (not one precious moment) on the unimportant things. 

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Tracy