Fight Almost Over

two days ago my mom took a turn for the worst. she now is completely bed riddon. has oxygen, morphine pump,, catheter. she isfighting it so hard it hurts so bad to see her fighting this hard. she trys to talk but it just sounds like mumbling,i feel so bad cause i cant make out what she saying. she has awaken After sleeping for nearly to days.no matter how much morphine or ativan she gets you can tell she so scared to fall asleep. this is absolutely the hardest time of life.now we just wait till she no longer has the strenth to fight.at 49  she has not lead a long enough life. everyone should let their mothers and fathers no how much they mean. on a daily basis. you will not have them forever.sorry i must go now need to compose myself. good luck to anyone and everyone with cancer or caregiver for it is not easy on any side of the fence you or on

My heart goes out to you. I am sorry you and your mother are having to go through this. I will definitley say a prayer for you both, and remember if The Lord brings you to it, He will bring you through it. I know this is hard to accept sometimes, but please try to keep the faith.

Hugs & Prayers from Tennessee!

Anthony,

I am so sorry for what you and your mom are going through.  I don't have an answer but, I have an opinion.  My wife died in 2004 after a short, tough fight with colon cancer.  It took me giving her permission, for her to finally let go.  Her last night we sat and talked (I did all the talking) and told her things were going to be o.k. , our kids were going be o.k., and even made up  some stuff that I knew would make her feel better.  Then I sang to her as she struggled to breathe. 

I know what you are doing is so very hard.  Everyone is different, and I feel terrible for you having to go through this.  Thanks for the kind words you said about talking to your parents.  I am going through cancer right now (for the past 4 years) and my kids after having lost their mother/my wife have been very sweet to me. 

 Dean 

My heart aches for you as you both go through this.... my Mom fought very hard in her final days as well...a very difficult thing to have to experience.  No one should ever have to go through this. If you can, continue to be there for her, talk to her and comfort her in the best way you know how.  

My thoughts and prayers go out to you.... may you find the strength, love and support to get through these days. 

 

On 5/29/2008 anthony_352 wrote:

two days ago my mom took a turn for the worst. she now is completely bed riddon. has oxygen, morphine pump,, catheter. she isfighting it so hard it hurts so bad to see her fighting this hard. she trys to talk but it just sounds like mumbling,i feel so bad cause i cant make out what she saying. she has awaken After sleeping for nearly to days.no matter how much morphine or ativan she gets you can tell she so scared to fall asleep. this is absolutely the hardest time of life.now we just wait till she no longer has the strenth to fight.at 49  she has not lead a long enough life. everyone should let their mothers and fathers no how much they mean. on a daily basis. you will not have them forever.sorry i must go now need to compose myself. good luck to anyone and everyone with cancer or caregiver for it is not easy on any side of the fence you or on

 Anthony,

How sad it is, that your mother and you have to go through all of this pain and suffering together. You're correct in stating how your mother is far too young to have this disease. I just turned 56, and was DX with extensive small cell lung cancer, with mest, already to my liver and bones.

I know that the hardest part for me, (when my time comes) will be in having to leave my two children alone. That is how a mother feels. How can she not. I am sure your mother feels the same way about leaving you. Bless her heart. All you can do now, is talk to her. Try and make her as comfortable as possible and don't allow her to suffer any pain. Just plain be there for her.  She'll know that you are by her side.

I shall ask God to give you strength to do what you have to do, during this tragic part of your life. You take care and may God Bless You and your dear, sweet mother.

 

My Best to You,

Rosie

Savannah, GA. 

Anthony, My father in law lost his short battle today. I feel your pain. Let your mother know just how much she means to you and be there for her. I will keep you and her in my thoughts and prayers tonight. God Bless you both...Rodney

My prayers are with you and your family.

God bless your mom, you and your family.  My wife and I nursed my 29 year old daughter for 7 months during her recurrence of cervical cancer. She too had everything to live for and never gave up. During her last months , when things got really bad, I talked to her and asked her what was her favorite place that she had been. She said Maui, Hawaia. She had taken a two week vacation there several years before, and she always loved that memory. I told her that when things got bad, she should take herself in her mind to her "happy place". Each time I saw her having difficulty, I would remind her to go to her happy place. After a couple of tries, I could see her taking herself to her happy place. I would watch the anguish leave her face and be replaced with a peaceful, calm appearance.  I will never really know if this helped her, but I believe it did. 

She fought so hard. The day she passed away, even though she was unconcious, she kept fighting. She did not let go until we told her it was OK to go. This was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. So do not be surprised if your mom keeps fighting. But remember, you too may have to tell her its OK to go.

God bless you and mom and I will be praying for you both.

A lonely father