Mom Had Breast Cancer In Remission Now Spots In Liver And Lung After 1 Month?.

I am so out of the loop with my mom, she is hundreds of miles away and i feel she's not telling me anything i really need to know, She found out she had beast cancer last october, had a three in one Chemo cocktail  ( 30 treatments) , then a masectomy, the skin graph they took from her leg apparently had skin cancer the scale part of the skin, so she had t do radiation, all three of those really gave her a time, so weak lost over 100 pounds. They tested her said the breast cancer was in remission, she lived with that for about 3 weeks, went back in because the place where they removed the lymp nodes was infection with staff, ran some tests and now, say there are small specs in her liver and lung!.....How can this be?.....They did say the tumors she has popping up was from the Chemo treatment. I'm not so sure she can take another bout of Chemo like that again. my question is, Breast cancer caused the cancer in her liver and lung or was it the skin cancer that branched out? What treatment do they ususally do with her situation now?. I'm so worried about her.

What's scary, my mom's mother had breast cancern my dad's mother passed from complications of breast cancer, So i have three female close generations that has or had breast cancer, I just feel like i need to brace myself for what may come for me or/and my daughter. :o(

 

So sorry to hear about your mom.  If there is spread it is more likely from the BC unless she had melanoma but even still the mode you speak of is associated more with BC.  You should seek a genetic counselor to go over your potential for developing BC with such a strong familiar history.  Your female relatives may carry a mutation such as BRAC l or 2 and you could possibly be tested.  They can discuss options for you so you can take some control over your own future.  Again, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. 

Thank you!  I have heard about the gene testing but have no idea where i can find out any information in my area. I'll do some checking. Word is now on the bone testing they have done, it shows spots on her left rib area. I just wish i can take all her pain away.

Visit your Mom.  You'll learn more about her cancer & will cherish the time you spend with her.  Wishing all of you a good outcome.

Well I would if she wanted me there. At this point She doesn't want anyone around while she's sick. She had her mammogram every year, but one, skipped one and during that year is when she started noticing the skin difference and arm pain so I think she knew she had medical issues, but just prolonged it, so with her waiting that full 13 months to go in she didn't help her situation due to fear. the same side of her breast she has a mole that was over whelmed with melanoma that she knew didn't look normal either.  She does have my dad with her so she's not alone, It's just the fact she is "my" mother and With her being this bad I'm not so sure when/if i will see her again.

My mom was kinda the same way.  She wouldn't give me all the facts of her medical condition over the phone.  Very stubborn woman.  I also lived far away from her.  One day I just showed up with no warning on her door step & told her I was going to her doctor's appointment with her.  To my surprise she didn't balk & was glad to see me.  My father was relieved.  Along with the doctor, we were able to get her to go to the hospital for treatment & tests, something she had been refusing to do.  Eventually, she did pass on, but she got better for awhile & the treatment helped her not to suffer as much.  We had plenty of bad days with her bad attitude, but they were worth it.  I have the satisfaction of knowing that I did everything within my power to help her.

Your mom may not respond the same way, but knowing you tried, spending time with her even if she has a bad attitude, comforting your father is worth considering.  Whatever you decide, I hope you can find peace during this difficult time.

 

On 6/13/2008 melissa1974 wrote:

I am so out of the loop with my mom, she is hundreds of miles away and i feel she's not telling me anything i really need to know, She found out she had beast cancer last october, had a three in one Chemo cocktail  ( 30 treatments) , then a masectomy, the skin graph they took from her leg apparently had skin cancer the scale part of the skin, so she had t do radiation, all three of those really gave her a time, so weak lost over 100 pounds. They tested her said the breast cancer was in remission, she lived with that for about 3 weeks, went back in because the place where they removed the lymp nodes was infection with staff, ran some tests and now, say there are small specs in her liver and lung!.....How can this be?.....They did say the tumors she has popping up was from the Chemo treatment. I'm not so sure she can take another bout of Chemo like that again. my question is, Breast cancer caused the cancer in her liver and lung or was it the skin cancer that branched out? What treatment do they ususally do with her situation now?. I'm so worried about her.

What's scary, my mom's mother had breast cancern my dad's mother passed from complications of breast cancer, So i have three female close generations that has or had breast cancer, I just feel like i need to brace myself for what may come for me or/and my daughter. :o(

 

I'm a 3-year survivor always feeling like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. I've had several PET scans since the treatments in 05 which have shown spots on the lung and liver but didn't show up as cancer. Has your mom had a PET scan? They have given me considerable peace of mind.

I just read the article on this site about healthy diet and lifestyle can change cancer genes. I sure think all of us should research that possibility further.

Good luck to you, your mother and your daughter.

JudyB 

 

 

She has had the PET. She told me yesterday that they are going to start Chemo all over again her first treatment will be monday, but just not as much of the dosage she had the first time. I thought if that was an option they would at least giver her body some rest from the previous Chemo and the radiation, it has only been two weeks since her last treatment. She  now has lost a totaly of 168 pounds due to Chemo and Radition!..Will they just keep giving her Chemo If she needs it? Or when is it to a point where the body just say's " no more".....She wasn't going to go through chemo again but any with glimmer of hope.....

 

 

On 6/20/2008 melissa1974 wrote:

She has had the PET. She told me yesterday that they are going to start Chemo all over again her first treatment will be monday, but just not as much of the dosage she had the first time. I thought if that was an option they would at least giver her body some rest from the previous Chemo and the radiation, it has only been two weeks since her last treatment. She  now has lost a totaly of 168 pounds due to Chemo and Radition!..Will they just keep giving her Chemo If she needs it? Or when is it to a point where the body just say's " no more".....She wasn't going to go through chemo again but any with glimmer of hope.....

 

I'm certainly no expert but I would surely think there's no way her body can survive more chemo. Any chance of getting a second opinion? There's such a fine line between proper treatment and how much they can get from insurance companies.

I would think she would be subject to serious infection since her blood counts must be terribly low already. Apparently she's willing to go ahead with more chemo. What did the PET scan reveal? Cancer in several organs I presume. I understand the glimmer of hope. You can't give up the fight.

If I were you I'd do like the other responder did and just show up. It has to be terribly hard to be far away from her at this time.

My sincere sympathy for your situation. It's probably a no-win and you should work on keeping yourself healthy.

Best regards.

JudyB 

 

 

 

 

Why don't you call her Dr and ask questions?

That's exactly what I would do.

I think some of the older people feel that their children don't want to be bothered with them. I am 69 and very seldom see my children. They work and I know that is very hard to visit when they work 5 days a week. But I always found time to see my family when I worked everyday,not as often as I would have liked .

Sometimes  I go months without seeing any of them.

Anyway call her Dr and get some answers.

Hugs Shirley