Mum Has Been Given A Final Answer! Help

Hi,

 My mum has been diagnosed with lung cancer 18months ago, and she has been on the tarceva drug for 10months so far.  Her health was really good at the start of the trial of tarceva, however she did have the rash but it slowly disappeared.  She is now 18months down the line, and the doctors predicited that she would be with us for only 18months, and they have been right.

 We have tried to beat the statistics but it is looking very unlikely now.  My mum is 52years old, and has never smoked.  About 10days ago my mother was really ill and kept vomitting non stop for about 5 days, we then called a doctor to check up on her and they said she has to go to the hospital as shes really ill.  We thought she was getting better, but when she was vomitting the tarceva was coming out with it, therefore it stopped working for her.  This meant that she was in severe pain, as all the medication she was taking was not going into her body but was just exiting. 

She then got sent to the hospice for some care, and after a week she then was told she has fluid in her lungs.  This happened last year aswell so we already knew what to expect.  She then got transferred to the hospital for it to get removed, and now shes back at the hospice.

The doctors did a full examination on her, and we were then given the news that we didnt want to hear.  They told us that she has days or just weeks left to live.  So we just got to expect the worse.

I dont know what im going to do without her im only 20, my birthdays in a months time alongside my twins, and we really want her to be alive for it.

Im really scared, but at the same time trying to stay strong.

Has anyone got any advice they can share with me, as i need support from similar patients or care givers.

Thank you.

I can only imagine the pain you and your family are going through.  Have you called Hospice?  They can help you deal with everything you are going through as well as help your mom cope.  Hang in there.

www.hospicefoundation.org/

 

On 6/18/2008 tw1nkle15 wrote:

Hi,

 My mum has been diagnosed with lung cancer 18months ago, and she has been on the tarceva drug for 10months so far.  Her health was really good at the start of the trial of tarceva, however she did have the rash but it slowly disappeared.  She is now 18months down the line, and the doctors predicited that she would be with us for only 18months, and they have been right.

 We have tried to beat the statistics but it is looking very unlikely now.  My mum is 52years old, and has never smoked.  About 10days ago my mother was really ill and kept vomitting non stop for about 5 days, we then called a doctor to check up on her and they said she has to go to the hospital as shes really ill.  We thought she was getting better, but when she was vomitting the tarceva was coming out with it, therefore it stopped working for her.  This meant that she was in severe pain, as all the medication she was taking was not going into her body but was just exiting. 

She then got sent to the hospice for some care, and after a week she then was told she has fluid in her lungs.  This happened last year aswell so we already knew what to expect.  She then got transferred to the hospital for it to get removed, and now shes back at the hospice.

The doctors did a full examination on her, and we were then given the news that we didnt want to hear.  They told us that she has days or just weeks left to live.  So we just got to expect the worse.

I dont know what im going to do without her im only 20, my birthdays in a months time alongside my twins, and we really want her to be alive for it.

Im really scared, but at the same time trying to stay strong.

Has anyone got any advice they can share with me, as i need support from similar patients or care givers.

Thank you.

 

Hi sorry your mums has cancer  I don’t know the age of your mother but Im sure these two suggestions that  will help here the first is  a bi-cab soda IV will help her Dr Simoncini (oncologist ) in Rome is doing this his site  is at  http://www.curenaturalicancro.com/

 

The second is Vitamin C IV ask your doctor or  just type this into search engine

 

    hope this helps Ray

tw1nkle15,

I am sorry for the battle your mum has had to fight, and for the effect it has on your family.  I lost my mom within 8 months to stage IV, small  cell lung cancer fifteen months ago. Living with her illness, and the anticipation of what would come next was extremely difficult for her and our family. While we all did what we thought was best, I continue to live each day overwhelmed with regret. Please ask GOD for guidance in EVERYTHING that you do, and trust in your heart that HE will see you through. Live each day with your mum like it is your only day with her, and make it her best day with you. LOVE HER, be there for her, do whatever she wants (no matter how difficult it is for you or for others). Say the things you need to say, and the things that she needs to hear; don't be afraid. I know this will be an exhausting and difficult time for you, and wish I could keep you from this painful experience. Be proud of your mum for the courage she has to face this each day, and make her proud of you. Remember, you and your twin are everything to her. I will keep you in my heart and prayers, and trust that God will be with you and your mum. God bless you, honey.

tw1nkle15,

I'm sorry to hear of this and wish you all the best of luck.  My mom also has cancer and was diagnosed with it last month. She also 52, has a lot to look forward to.  Sad indeed! The doctor told me today that it has spread and has mets to the brain.  Friday she's doing radiation and Monday she's getting her EGFR tested prior to Tarceva.  Everyday there's bad news and it seem as though it's getting worse, but I'm still going to remain strong around her and support her.  I try not to let her know too much, it's hard though as she keeps asking about her condition.  She's very emotional and had a meltdown last night.  I have no advice in terms of medical and treatment as I'm new to this, but I wanted to tell you to stay strong, be positive and hope for the best for you and your family.

 

CherishAll...

My father was diagnosed with NSCLC with brain metastases in May 2007. From day 1 the doctors have been pessimistic, in September he went to hospital and doctors said it was the beginning of the end...my father pulled through and kept fighting! He is still here, unfortunately with an eye met now and in pain. He is not giving up though and neither are we. If there is 1percent that pulls through, why can't my dad be that? Why can't your mum? My dad is 50, i am 28 but haven't got kids. I want him to see grandchildren because he will be a terrific grandad. I am still hoping and that's what you should do!

 God will make the decision, but we have to act like we don't know when and where because we really don't know!  Never let your mum see you  sad  and always try to make her smile!

Good luck to you all! 

 

Hi all, thanks for all your messages.  Im finding it extremely hard to say 'i love you' to mum, i dont know why, its soo hard and im trying my best, but everytime im about to say it i break down.  It so difficult to watch my mum in this position, and even though shes in a hospice and given the best care possible, its too much for me.  I cant see her lying there, shes my rock, everyones rock, and has never said NO to anything, shes been there for everyone and could multi-task was like a machine. 

What am i going to do without her, im not a very strong believer in god, but im hoping for a miracle, i really am.  Shes still trying to fight strong, and trying to move but she cant and speaks very softly, and all i can remember is how she was before all this, this time last year she was fine, i mean she had the cancer but was fighting for her life.  Now it feels like all hope is gone, but im still hanging in there.

Well im going to go see her in the hospice now, been there everyday for 12 hours and just hope someone can save her.

Thanks again, and any more messages will be much appreciated.

Stay Strong!  My Mum diagnosed with stage 4 May 18th, I fell apart for the first two weeks but knew I had to stay strong for my Dad and Mum, I have never been given a "date" or estimate,by the ONC. said he doesnt have a chrystal ball, so I fear the worst but hope for the best, right now I try to do as many little things or say things that make her happy.  I feel for you deeply, remember the good and times you had, that helps.  I will put your Mum in prayers.  I've had a lot of experiences in my life, I have always said thats what I'm here for, but I never expected this.  This forum is such a comfort, stay with it.  This is the best place to be, I and the rest will guide you thru this.

 

On 6/18/2008 tw1nkle15 wrote:

Hi,

 My mum has been diagnosed with lung cancer 18months ago, and she has been on the tarceva drug for 10months so far.  Her health was really good at the start of the trial of tarceva, however she did have the rash but it slowly disappeared.  She is now 18months down the line, and the doctors predicited that she would be with us for only 18months, and they have been right.

 We have tried to beat the statistics but it is looking very unlikely now.  My mum is 52years old, and has never smoked.  About 10days ago my mother was really ill and kept vomitting non stop for about 5 days, we then called a doctor to check up on her and they said she has to go to the hospital as shes really ill.  We thought she was getting better, but when she was vomitting the tarceva was coming out with it, therefore it stopped working for her.  This meant that she was in severe pain, as all the medication she was taking was not going into her body but was just exiting. 

She then got sent to the hospice for some care, and after a week she then was told she has fluid in her lungs.  This happened last year aswell so we already knew what to expect.  She then got transferred to the hospital for it to get removed, and now shes back at the hospice.

The doctors did a full examination on her, and we were then given the news that we didnt want to hear.  They told us that she has days or just weeks left to live.  So we just got to expect the worse.

I dont know what im going to do without her im only 20, my birthdays in a months time alongside my twins, and we really want her to be alive for it.

Im really scared, but at the same time trying to stay strong.

Has anyone got any advice they can share with me, as i need support from similar patients or care givers.

Thank you.

Hi, I am too a victem of cancer. I have it and my family don't actual give the suppoet I need/want.  If it was turn the other way and they had cancer; I sure would not give upj just look up. By looking up I'd turn her over to GOD but not loose hope that she could live longer and give her all support, love & smiles you can give, hey a smile goes far!

Have faith in GOD!