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hi i am new in writing i hope you all wont mind. i sick with worry as i have been diagnosed with bone cancer. i have had breast cancer  about 12 to 13 years ago were both my breasts were removed . i have also had my womb and ovaries removed as well nothing to do with cancer it was more of a safety measure,in case it spread the doctors thought it was a good idea. so i have had early onset menapause,last year in august in fell over in the bathroom right on my bum my spine hurt like hell then everything was fine. in january this year i went for a normal checkup for the breast and i mentioned i had fallen they sent me for a scan which came up with my upper back in the spine one veretbrae and lower back had cancer including the spleen which had a 7mm lesion.  two weeks later they tell me that the lower back had no cancer just mild fracture. during the time i had requested for a second opinion at a cancer hospital. they confirmed that the one of the vertebrate  had cancer but the spleen even though it had a lesion it was not cancerous.  so at the end of it from having cancer at 3 places it has come down to one place.  i am so confused. i have a daughter who is very close to me she is 14 years old and i know i would love to see her graduate. she is not very close to her father . we have giggles and all the things mothers and daughters do. the doctors have told me 10 years but how do you deal with it has anyone been dianosed and how have you dealt with it. are there any other treatments available to prolong . i feel very alone please advise  ...    

 

On 6/19/2008 savithri wrote:

hi i am new in writing i hope you all wont mind. i sick with worry as i have been diagnosed with bone cancer. i have had breast cancer  about 12 to 13 years ago were both my breasts were removed . i have also had my womb and ovaries removed as well nothing to do with cancer it was more of a safety measure,in case it spread the doctors thought it was a good idea. so i have had early onset menapause,last year in august in fell over in the bathroom right on my bum my spine hurt like hell then everything was fine. in january this year i went for a normal checkup for the breast and i mentioned i had fallen they sent me for a scan which came up with my upper back in the spine one veretbrae and lower back had cancer including the spleen which had a 7mm lesion.  two weeks later they tell me that the lower back had no cancer just mild fracture. during the time i had requested for a second opinion at a cancer hospital. they confirmed that the one of the vertebrate  had cancer but the spleen even though it had a lesion it was not cancerous.  so at the end of it from having cancer at 3 places it has come down to one place.  i am so confused. i have a daughter who is very close to me she is 14 years old and i know i would love to see her graduate. she is not very close to her father . we have giggles and all the things mothers and daughters do. the doctors have told me 10 years but how do you deal with it has anyone been dianosed and how have you dealt with it. are there any other treatments available to prolong . i feel very alone please advise  ...    

Dear Savithr,  I'm so sorry to hear about your bone cancer.  My husband was diagnosed with it last November. It had spread to his bones from Lung Cancer.  I can sure relate to your worry.  All of us on this board worry.  It sounds like they may have caught it in it's early stages.  Remember one thing, while doctors can do wonders, they are not God.  When they give you a time frame, try to remember that is only statistics.  Read the other posts on these boards and read about the miracles.  This board has helped me so much to ease my mind and worry less.  Cancer is a very scarry thing, but with the others, you don't have to go through this alone.  We're all here for you.

 

On 6/19/2008 savithri wrote:

hi i am new in writing i hope you all wont mind. i sick with worry as i have been diagnosed with bone cancer. i have had breast cancer  about 12 to 13 years ago were both my breasts were removed . i have also had my womb and ovaries removed as well nothing to do with cancer it was more of a safety measure,in case it spread the doctors thought it was a good idea. so i have had early onset menapause,last year in august in fell over in the bathroom right on my bum my spine hurt like hell then everything was fine. in january this year i went for a normal checkup for the breast and i mentioned i had fallen they sent me for a scan which came up with my upper back in the spine one veretbrae and lower back had cancer including the spleen which had a 7mm lesion.  two weeks later they tell me that the lower back had no cancer just mild fracture. during the time i had requested for a second opinion at a cancer hospital. they confirmed that the one of the vertebrate  had cancer but the spleen even though it had a lesion it was not cancerous.  so at the end of it from having cancer at 3 places it has come down to one place.  i am so confused. i have a daughter who is very close to me she is 14 years old and i know i would love to see her graduate. she is not very close to her father . we have giggles and all the things mothers and daughters do. the doctors have told me 10 years but how do you deal with it has anyone been dianosed and how have you dealt with it. are there any other treatments available to prolong . i feel very alone please advise  ...    

I have had bone cancer for over three years. Yes it's a bummer but my doctors have been able to treat it and control the pain and discomfort. Cancer started in prostate then to lymph system then bones. Huge shock when diagnosed. Everyone says I don't look like I have cancer. My response is " What am I supposed to look like??" Most people must think I should be in a wheel chair or walker. Probably would be if it wern't for CTCA in Zion.

 

On 6/20/2008 chef4u wrote:

 

On 6/19/2008 savithri wrote:

hi i am new in writing i hope you all wont mind. i sick with worry as i have been diagnosed with bone cancer. i have had breast cancer  about 12 to 13 years ago were both my breasts were removed . i have also had my womb and ovaries removed as well nothing to do with cancer it was more of a safety measure,in case it spread the doctors thought it was a good idea. so i have had early onset menapause,last year in august in fell over in the bathroom right on my bum my spine hurt like hell then everything was fine. in january this year i went for a normal checkup for the breast and i mentioned i had fallen they sent me for a scan which came up with my upper back in the spine one veretbrae and lower back had cancer including the spleen which had a 7mm lesion.  two weeks later they tell me that the lower back had no cancer just mild fracture. during the time i had requested for a second opinion at a cancer hospital. they confirmed that the one of the vertebrate  had cancer but the spleen even though it had a lesion it was not cancerous.  so at the end of it from having cancer at 3 places it has come down to one place.  i am so confused. i have a daughter who is very close to me she is 14 years old and i know i would love to see her graduate. she is not very close to her father . we have giggles and all the things mothers and daughters do. the doctors have told me 10 years but how do you deal with it has anyone been dianosed and how have you dealt with it. are there any other treatments available to prolong . i feel very alone please advise  ...    

Dear Savithr,  I'm so sorry to hear about your bone cancer.  My husband was diagnosed with it last November. It had spread to his bones from Lung Cancer.  I can sure relate to your worry.  All of us on this board worry.  It sounds like they may have caught it in it's early stages.  Remember one thing, while doctors can do wonders, they are not God.  When they give you a time frame, try to remember that is only statistics.  Read the other posts on these boards and read about the miracles.  This board has helped me so much to ease my mind and worry less.  Cancer is a very scarry thing, but with the others, you don't have to go through this alone.  We're all here for you.

thankyou for you message,it has kept me going, i so much want to be hear for my daughter. what treatment is your husband having is he okay with that.  most of all how are you keep your chin up,i know its not easy for me say. life is very precious i know that now.  god bless savithri  

 

 

On 6/25/2008 Huckelberry wrote:

 

On 6/19/2008 savithri wrote:

hi i am new in writing i hope you all wont mind. i sick with worry as i have been diagnosed with bone cancer. i have had breast cancer  about 12 to 13 years ago were both my breasts were removed . i have also had my womb and ovaries removed as well nothing to do with cancer it was more of a safety measure,in case it spread the doctors thought it was a good idea. so i have had early onset menapause,last year in august in fell over in the bathroom right on my bum my spine hurt like hell then everything was fine. in january this year i went for a normal checkup for the breast and i mentioned i had fallen they sent me for a scan which came up with my upper back in the spine one veretbrae and lower back had cancer including the spleen which had a 7mm lesion.  two weeks later they tell me that the lower back had no cancer just mild fracture. during the time i had requested for a second opinion at a cancer hospital. they confirmed that the one of the vertebrate  had cancer but the spleen even though it had a lesion it was not cancerous.  so at the end of it from having cancer at 3 places it has come down to one place.  i am so confused. i have a daughter who is very close to me she is 14 years old and i know i would love to see her graduate. she is not very close to her father . we have giggles and all the things mothers and daughters do. the doctors have told me 10 years but how do you deal with it has anyone been dianosed and how have you dealt with it. are there any other treatments available to prolong . i feel very alone please advise  ...    

I have had bone cancer for over three years. Yes it's a bummer but my doctors have been able to treat it and control the pain and discomfort. Cancer started in prostate then to lymph system then bones. Huge shock when diagnosed. Everyone says I don't look like I have cancer. My response is " What am I supposed to look like??" Most people must think I should be in a wheel chair or walker. Probably would be if it wern't for CTCA in Zion.

thanks for e-mailing me. yes i know how you must feel. people ring up and speak to my husband and ask is she okay how is she manageing. i tell them look i am fine i going to work looking after the house taking care of the family. It really drives me up the wall when people think i should look sickley, i shouldnt swear but there are few words i can think right now ooooh. sometimes i think i should put on some pasty looking makeup and make them have something to talkabout. they have started commenting i have lost weight i try telling them its because i have recently become a veggie thats why ohhh no they dont want to beleive that anyhow enough of me. how are you keeping from not worrying,try and stay postive i know its easy for me say but you should.. take care savi    

 

On 6/28/2008 savithri wrote:

 

On 6/20/2008 chef4u wrote:

 

On 6/19/2008 savithri wrote:

hi i am new in writing i hope you all wont mind. i sick with worry as i have been diagnosed with bone cancer. i have had breast cancer  about 12 to 13 years ago were both my breasts were removed . i have also had my womb and ovaries removed as well nothing to do with cancer it was more of a safety measure,in case it spread the doctors thought it was a good idea. so i have had early onset menapause,last year in august in fell over in the bathroom right on my bum my spine hurt like hell then everything was fine. in january this year i went for a normal checkup for the breast and i mentioned i had fallen they sent me for a scan which came up with my upper back in the spine one veretbrae and lower back had cancer including the spleen which had a 7mm lesion.  two weeks later they tell me that the lower back had no cancer just mild fracture. during the time i had requested for a second opinion at a cancer hospital. they confirmed that the one of the vertebrate  had cancer but the spleen even though it had a lesion it was not cancerous.  so at the end of it from having cancer at 3 places it has come down to one place.  i am so confused. i have a daughter who is very close to me she is 14 years old and i know i would love to see her graduate. she is not very close to her father . we have giggles and all the things mothers and daughters do. the doctors have told me 10 years but how do you deal with it has anyone been dianosed and how have you dealt with it. are there any other treatments available to prolong . i feel very alone please advise  ...    

Dear Savithr,  I'm so sorry to hear about your bone cancer.  My husband was diagnosed with it last November. It had spread to his bones from Lung Cancer.  I can sure relate to your worry.  All of us on this board worry.  It sounds like they may have caught it in it's early stages.  Remember one thing, while doctors can do wonders, they are not God.  When they give you a time frame, try to remember that is only statistics.  Read the other posts on these boards and read about the miracles.  This board has helped me so much to ease my mind and worry less.  Cancer is a very scarry thing, but with the others, you don't have to go through this alone.  We're all here for you.

thankyou for you message,it has kept me going, i so much want to be hear for my daughter. what treatment is your husband having is he okay with that.  most of all how are you keep your chin up,i know its not easy for me say. life is very precious i know that now.  god bless savithri  

 

They gave my husband more chemo (7 more rounds) and the last test showed no new growth.  The doctor said there is no need for any more treatment since there is no new growth.  This is a case where more isn't necessarily better.  My husband is doing well.  He has some minor back pain and the pain meds help.  He works every day is is doing fine. We see the doctor again in September at which time he will have another PET scan to see if there is any change.  What gets me through this you ask?  God and my church.  There is no other way as far as I'm concerned.  Also, keeping busy helps as well as this message board.  It will do the same for you if you let it.  Keep us posted. 

 

hi thought i would write feeling down sometimes i have felt postive and carried own,sometimes all i want to do is sleep i believe in god and going and praying has helped. buts its hard as i cant forget each time i wake up. and certain people in my life are not very nice as they say i dont look like a person who has cancer. my parents have both passed away,and i really needed them here with me right now did a lot of crying today. how is your husband keeping and you i know it really must be hard, have you anyone to help you etc like they have in this country. i live in the uk.. maybe its karma has some people sayi dont know. i think you are a strong person,things will be alright..  lot of people have been telling me that this year is a bad year for everyone bad things have been happening to lots of people illness, car accidents etc..   anyhow take care god bless savi.. 

Hi,

I too know what it is to worry. I have been diagnoised with multiple myeloma and I am scared to death. I am worried that my prognoisis willnot be good. I too know God and know that prayer is so helpful. Hang in there itmust be so hard not to have your parents I hope you have another support system. God BLess.

 

On 7/4/2008 savithri wrote:

hi thought i would write feeling down sometimes i have felt postive and carried own,sometimes all i want to do is sleep i believe in god and going and praying has helped. buts its hard as i cant forget each time i wake up. and certain people in my life are not very nice as they say i dont look like a person who has cancer. my parents have both passed away,and i really needed them here with me right now did a lot of crying today. how is your husband keeping and you i know it really must be hard, have you anyone to help you etc like they have in this country. i live in the uk.. maybe its karma has some people sayi dont know. i think you are a strong person,things will be alright..  lot of people have been telling me that this year is a bad year for everyone bad things have been happening to lots of people illness, car accidents etc..   anyhow take care god bless savi.. 

Dear Savithri,  I can certainly understand your up and down feelings.  My husband and I go through the same thing.  I think about his cancer from the time I wake up in the morning until I close my eyes at night.  It is all consuming.  Have you talked with your doctor about perhaps getting on some sort of mild anti depressant?  Perhaps that would help.  There is nothing wrong with crying and getting it out of your system.  Tears can be very cleansing.  I find it very therapeutic to try to help others.  Perhaps on your good days you could find someway to help someone else.  I find that when I help others, it takes me out of myself. 

Sometimes people say thoughtless things when they don't know what else to say.  Cancer scares people who don't have it.  I guess it still has the stigma of being in bed 24 hours and withering away.  That is not the case today.  The next time someone says to you that "you don't look like you have cancer", try to take that as a compliment and then ask them "what does someone with cancer supposed to look like?"  Try not to take it to heart.  It sounds like you are doing the right thing.  If there is a support group in your area, try attending.

You too are very strong.  I'll pray that God keeps you in his loving arms.

 

On 6/25/2008 Huckelberry wrote:

 

On 6/19/2008 savithri wrote:

hi i am new in writing i hope you all wont mind. i sick with worry as i have been diagnosed with bone cancer. i have had breast cancer  about 12 to 13 years ago were both my breasts were removed . i have also had my womb and ovaries removed as well nothing to do with cancer it was more of a safety measure,in case it spread the doctors thought it was a good idea. so i have had early onset menapause,last year in august in fell over in the bathroom right on my bum my spine hurt like hell then everything was fine. in january this year i went for a normal checkup for the breast and i mentioned i had fallen they sent me for a scan which came up with my upper back in the spine one veretbrae and lower back had cancer including the spleen which had a 7mm lesion.  two weeks later they tell me that the lower back had no cancer just mild fracture. during the time i had requested for a second opinion at a cancer hospital. they confirmed that the one of the vertebrate  had cancer but the spleen even though it had a lesion it was not cancerous.  so at the end of it from having cancer at 3 places it has come down to one place.  i am so confused. i have a daughter who is very close to me she is 14 years old and i know i would love to see her graduate. she is not very close to her father . we have giggles and all the things mothers and daughters do. the doctors have told me 10 years but how do you deal with it has anyone been dianosed and how have you dealt with it. are there any other treatments available to prolong . i feel very alone please advise  ...    

I have had bone cancer for over three years. Yes it's a bummer but my doctors have been able to treat it and control the pain and discomfort. Cancer started in prostate then to lymph system then bones. Huge shock when diagnosed. Everyone says I don't look like I have cancer. My response is " What am I supposed to look like??" Most people must think I should be in a wheel chair or walker. Probably would be if it wern't for CTCA in Zion.

Dear Huckleberry, I just read your post that you have had bone cancer for 3 years.  My husband has bone mets from lung cancer.  Diagnosed last November with the mets. Done with chemo (for now) and the last PET showed no new growth.  I was just wondering what kind of treatment you are receiving and how you are controlling the pain.  My husband has a lot of pain lately.  The pain meds help, but it seems like he has to take more of them lately and more frequently.  I would appreciate hearing back from you when you get a chance.  Thank you.  Kathy