Does The Fear and Anxiety Ever go Away?

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Does The Fear and Anxiety Ever go Away?

by Snickers on Mon Jul 25, 2005 12:00 AM

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I was diagnosed with and treated for renal cell cancer in November 2000 at the age of 47. I had a left radical nephrectomy and was told it was 5 cm and at a stage 1. The oncology doctors at a major teaching oncology center told me that there were no treatments available other than a discontinued clinical trial in Wisconsin at that time. He recommended that I "just go home, enjoy and live my life" and advised against any additional CTs or other tests since there were no options to offer, if the cancer did come back. I have continued, with the encouragement of my urologist, to have a yearly CT scan which have so far been all fine. Regardless, my cancer is always in my thoughts with each and every little ache and pain I may experience. Since hearing my diagnosis, particularly after meeting with the oncologist (which was worse than hearing I had cancer, by the way) my life and outlook have never been the same. I find myself preparing for recurrent cancer, for example, by sewing quilts and putting them away for future grandchildren which I may never meet. Do these fears ever go away? How have other people in similar circumstances coped? I know how extremely lucky I am to be still here 4 yhears after diagnosis with no recurrance but I feel as if I am constantly waiting for the "other shoe to drop". Any advice?

Thoughts and Prayers

by Rccwife on Thu Jul 28, 2005 12:00 AM

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I know just how you feel. My husband who is 30 was diagnosed a few months ago with rcc. 7 cm stage 2, and just had his kidney taken out. The doctors say the best thing for him is to stay healthy and get regular scans. The fear that it will come back takes over me sometimes. We have a one-year-old baby and I pray that he will be able to see her grow old and get married. After being worried and depressed all the time, I've decided that we just have to pray for the best and take it one step at a time. Hopefully in the years to come treatments will grow leaps and bounds, and maybe one day a cure!!! Good luck and god bless you. We will keep you in our prayers

Does The Fear and Anxiety Ever go Away?

by Trishpm on Sat Jul 30, 2005 12:00 AM

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It is NOT true that there are no options if the cancer comes back. Continue the scans (lung, abdomen and pelvis) and if the cancer returns, find yourself an oncologist who has experience in treating recurrent kidney cancer. Clearly, yours does not.

Renal Cell

by tina_b_4 on Tue Oct 11, 2005 12:00 AM

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I also wait for the other shoe to fall i had my left kidney taken out in feb 2003 and part of my right in 2004 i took thalomid after my second operation my dr does brain, chest,abdomen,and pelvic ct every 3 to 4 months and bone scan every 4 to 6 months and plans to do it this often till i am 2 years out from last surgery then less often. I try not to think about it untill some one close to me gets cancer then it creeps back into my mind. When i found out about the 2nd time i cried for a few min then told myself get a grip there is nothing i can do to change this and only God knows when it is my time so i say take care of your self get regular scans and live your life now. I plan to spend lots of time with grand baby I will pray for you.

Fear and Anxiety

by Mbc11471 on Sat Jul 22, 2006 12:00 AM

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I saw your message and had to reply because my situation is so similar to yours. My husband just had a nephrectomy of his right kidney. His mass was 11cm and he is only 38 years old.(I am 34) We are going to see the oncologist again next week to see what treatment will be the best for him. We have a 20mth old daughter and fear takes over my whole being every time I see them together. I just want my daughter to have her wonderful father around to teach her to ride a bike and walk her down the isle one day. We have so many plans as a family. My best friend got me three books Prison to Praise,Fear to Faith and Power of Praise. They have helped me when I was at my lowest point. June 19 was the worst day of my life when my husband was diagnosed and I will never be the same, but I know God has a plan for us and I am praising and trusting him more every day.

Fear and Anxiety

by Rccwife on Sun Jul 30, 2006 12:00 AM

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I am so sorry to hear about your husbands diagnosis. And everything you say is basically taking the words right out of my mouth!! I just wanted to say that it has now been over a year since my husband had his kidney taken out and our oncologist-who we see often- thinkgs that everything is looking good and we are watching him closely. He feels terriffic. I will always be terrified that it will come back, but we are loving life and living it the best we can. I will pray that you can do the same and that your husband recovers quickly. please keep us informed.
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