Hi ThinkPositive 2050 --
Being scared is very natural, for almost everyone equates the word Cancer with Death. However, it is amazing, but very very few people ever die the next day, week, month or even year after hearing that word!! How many people do you know who died? I'll bet that you wouldn't even know of 5!
Now that you've had surgery you will have to recover from the physical effects of that, but in terms of the changes in you from the moment you were told to now I'll bet there isn't much difference. I had a backache which wouldn't go away and after 2 months of zillions of tests I was diagnosed with multiple myeloma, a rare bone marrow cancer with a life expectancy of 2 years from the point of diagnosis. Well, its now 5 years later and although the journey has been very difficult at times, I am currently feeling better that I have felt in 5 years. So who can tell?? Each of us is an individual and there is no 'one cure fixes all' with cancer so the outlook really is not predictable.
Though you are not asking for advice, I would just like to say.....*try to be as positive as possible and use this as an opportunity to 'wake up' to LIFE. So often we have heard the platitudes of 'stop and smell the roses', but rarely do we listen. NOW is the time to listen and DO IT! Think of your diagnosis as a *GIFT! Yes a gift, for you can now take the time to look at what youve achieved in the last 30 years and think about what you want to do -- don't waste a minute!! Who knows, you may not have minutes to waste, but even if you do, make the most of each and every day. When you wake up in the morning be * glad to be alive and try to do something that will make a difference both to yourself and to others -- its amazing how much helping others helps yourself. And its so EASY -- just an unexpected * SMILE at someone (friend or stranger) brings joy and light to you both -- you'd be amazed!! So small, but if you're feeling up to it you can do so very much more, like helping someone to cross the street or carry their groceries or ... a million other things -- you are only limited by your own imagination. So, though you are only 30 get your life in order, be grateful for the warning you have and use it to your own and your family's advantage so that no matter what you make their lives the best they can be too. Your poor parents must also be very scared and will be wanting to ease things for you as best they can -- try to think of something concrete that they can do so that they too will have purpose and direction and be focused on making you happy. Are they computer literate? Can they help you to search for info related to your cancer? I actually found the drug that I am now on by searching the net daily for months!! Then I approached my oncologist and told him about it and low and behold he was able to get it directly from the pharmaceutical company on compassionate grounds gratis basis!! It would be something that they could possibly do, a 'what's new search' just for you!!
I'm rambling on, but I did not want you to be so scared. It would be extremely unlikely that you would face death soon -- and probably not for decades!! But use this experience to make sure that you make the most of the life you do have -- you sound like a wonderful young person who can take hold and run with what you have, so do it and ENJOY!! Best wishes to you always, Cath