Quality Of Sex --Not Just Erections--

What is the quality of your sex after your procedure?
Particularly I am interested not whether or not you have erections, but what happens to your sensations. Please note what your treatment was and how long ago.

I had a prostatectomy 4 years ago,with nerve sparing. I have been on Lupron ever since, and because it eliminates most testosterone, I am impotent and have almost know sexual sensations. Fortunately, without testosterone, I have almost no desire, which is a good thing.
Pat K

Erection? Sex drive? What's that?
I had my prostate removed in March'98 and radiation in '02, I don't have the urge nor erections since right after the surgery.
Shakey

I am a firm believer that sex after prostate cancer is what you make of it. My husband has had radical surgery, pelvic radiation and years and years of hormonal manipulations, chemotheray and radiation to bone mets but he still very much enjoys having intercourse and orgasm.

He did opt for a penile implant about three years into his diagnosis. This has been one of the best things that has happened to us since his diagnosis. With the implant he does not feel impotent and as a result he continues to enjoy the sensations of orgasm even though the hormone therapy has impacted his libido.

He believes that the most important sex organ is between your ears and that if one has the right mind set they can overcome all of the obstacles that would impeded sexual function. His focus has always been on bringing me pleasure and in the process he always becomes aroused and reaches orgasm.

I'd suggest treating the erectile dysfunction with one of the various treatments available and then focus on bringing pleasure to your partner and not on yourself. In the process of watching your partner respond, you will be surprised at what you might feel emotionally and physically

Wendy D

Thank you for your response. I am sorry for not responding sooner.

I don't disagree at all with what you say. I too derive great satisfaction from pleasuring my wife. 'Ladies first, second, third, and so on..." but I still need to know what are the effects of the different treatments since this will in part determine which treatment I choose. Physic indirect pleasure is great, but it is still nice to feel the real thing even if minimal.