She is in heaven now

You all may know me, I wrote "Running out of Time" and "Mom has less than 6 weeks to live".  This past Friday, August 15th, at 9:43pm, my mom went to be with the Lord, while my sister and I sat at her bedside when she took her final breath.  It was the most incredible pain I ever felt.  Her viewing and Funeral will take place over the next few days.  Her last 2 days of life were spent in bed, heavily medicated, and with our family and Hospice present in our home. I made sure I told her everything I possibly could, from I love you, to apologies, to advising her that it was ok to stop fighting and asked her to not be afraid.  We played her music for her continuously throughout the last 48 hours.  I don't know what to expect from here.  I do know that I miss her very much.  My advice for everyone who is dealing with a cancer patient in their family: tell them that you love them, love them, love them, love them, and MAKE SURE they know how much they are loved by all of their family and friends PRIOR to their final stage.  I will write again soon, with more detailed info as to her final days, but I cannot focus right now. 

Thank you all for your support, information, and emails, throughout her final 6 weeks of life.  This site was a major means of support for me. My moms prognosis was 6 weeks, well they were right, my mom lived exactly 6 weeks AND 1 day before her fight was over. Just some FYI. 

So sorry about your mom.  You are in my thoughts today and I wish you the strength you need.  I am glad you were able to be there with her at her last moments, and I know she was glad as well.   With me, every day in the grieving process is different.  Some days I was able to get things done and some days I couldn't do anything at all.  Everything you feel is normal.  Spend time with friends and family when you are up to it.  I immediately took a vacation to the beach which sounded strange to some of my family members but it was exactly what I needed.   Long walks on the beach and reading books were exactly what was best for me.  Do whatever feels right to you.  Take care of yourself and keep talking to your mom.....she will hear you.   

Laura  

I am very sorry for the loss of your Mother, My Mother had liver cancer, she had fought it hard, then she fell and broke her hip. She went for surgery and never fully awoke from the operation. She passed away Aug 4.I miss her very much she was a fighter. I am so gratful that she will not have to suffer with the late stages of the cancer. I hear it is very painful.

My thoughts and prayers are with you

Bev

On 8/18/2008 AnthonyR wrote:

You all may know me, I wrote "Running out of Time" and "Mom has less than 6 weeks to live".  This past Friday, August 15th, at 9:43pm, my mom went to be with the Lord, while my sister and I sat at her bedside when she took her final breath.  It was the most incredible pain I ever felt.  Her viewing and Funeral will take place over the next few days.  Her last 2 days of life were spent in bed, heavily medicated, and with our family and Hospice present in our home. I made sure I told her everything I possibly could, from I love you, to apologies, to advising her that it was ok to stop fighting and asked her to not be afraid.  We played her music for her continuously throughout the last 48 hours.  I don't know what to expect from here.  I do know that I miss her very much.  My advice for everyone who is dealing with a cancer patient in their family: tell them that you love them, love them, love them, love them, and MAKE SURE they know how much they are loved by all of their family and friends PRIOR to their final stage.  I will write again soon, with more detailed info as to her final days, but I cannot focus right now. 

Thank you all for your support, information, and emails, throughout her final 6 weeks of life.  This site was a major means of support for me. My moms prognosis was 6 weeks, well they were right, my mom lived exactly 6 weeks AND 1 day before her fight was over. Just some FYI. 

My mom passed away on Aug 20 at 6:30 p.m. just 6 weeks after being diagnosed with liver cancer.  My mom and I were so close and I know she is in heaven and I will see her again some day, but I grieve everyday and feel as though I won't get through it.  Like you we were all around her bed the last few days she was with us and telling her how much we loved her.  She went peacefully in her sleep with not much pain that I could see.  If you would like to email each other, my email address is

May God Bless you and your family,

Missingmymom