Latest messages for CancerCompass discussion http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,2908,0.htm Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:00:00 GMT Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/ Hello, I am new here too but I have read the whole page of topics and messages and I am so comforted by the support. My parents are trying their best to deal with my mom's recent diagnosis and I just hope they will ask for the help they need. It has happened so suddenly...I was up visiting them four weeks ago. My mom wasn't feeling too well because of a cramping when she breathed. She called her doctor to ask a few questions, and at the end of a very long day, we knew she probably had liver cancer. She is still feeling pretty good, but this week we learned that it is too large to treat with much hope of success, and my dear parents had to decide between chemo and hospice. It was just too sudden for them and they chose chemo. I think they are too traditional to really go for an alternative regimen, but I will suggest certain simple things, that I hope will help. I can see from some of your very touching stories, how quickly things can develop, how quickly things can change, and I treasure the days I have remaining with my mom. It is so shocking over and over again, how it seemed to appear from nowhere. How advanced it was before we knew. How everything changed in a day. It doesn't seem real. Thanks so much for being here. H Hanna Fri, 17 Feb 2006 00:00:00 GMT Hello, I read your email and can really identify with it, my father was diagnosed just two weeks ago, with liver,esophageal and stomach cancer, his prognosis is very bad. The emotional feelings of our of our family are still raw,andthe pain knowing he may not survive is the worst pain ever.My father is a very proud man,and seemsto be burying his head inthe sand,I have tried to access booklets from the cancersupport groups here in London,and have just left them with him..I would say that all you can do is to do the best you can,and remember ignorance about the disease can sometimes be frigtening so the more you know and your mum knows about it the better. This has hit my family like a bombshell, seeing my dad go from a vibrantfit man into a thin shadow of himself. Please be strong,and never give up..God Bless Gabby...PS dont know if I have helped,as I am new to this kind of thing...hope so though. Golden Sun, 22 Jan 2006 00:00:00 GMT thankyou for the information that you have kindly given me.my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.it is reasurring to know that i can talk to people in the same situation.i would be ever so gratefull if you could keep in touch with me..it has already made me feel so much better speaking to someone that is going through the same difficult times thinking of you and your family, take care of each other xx Virgogirl Fri, 09 Sep 2005 00:00:00 GMT My husband was diagnosed in April of this year with secondary liver cancer. He had bowel cancer 6 and a half years ago which we thought we had beaten. He too is a very private person and finds it very hard to share his emotions with anyone. In fact he seems to be pushing us, the ones closest to him the furthest away. The only advise I can give you is be there for your parents. If they want to talk let them, if they don't then don't push it. Don't take it to heart if they snap at you, you always hurt the ones closest to you. Remember it is not really them, it is the frustration and pain, both mentally and physically of dealing with this horrible insidious disease. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Deecurkat Fri, 09 Sep 2005 00:00:00 GMT My mum had bowel cancer 2years ago and thank god her operation was a complete success so she could have her colostomy reversed. She has told me only the other day that she now has 2x 1 inch shadows on her liver.She is being very brave but I have gone to pieces...I can not discuss it with her at the moment,but all I know is that she will be having chemo very soon to reduce the cancer.Can anyone give me advice on how to support my parents...I just dont know what to do as they are very private people and I know they will keep as much as they can from me and the rest of the family Virgogirl Thu, 08 Sep 2005 00:00:00 GMT