After 4 reoccurences, I just found out that there is nothing they can do for my mom.

I'm so devastated. It had originally been vaginal cancer, but had reappeared in other places. She did radiation twice, then got a full hysterectomy as well as her bladder and part of her bowels removed. She did chemo recently, but the dr said it was all over her body despite the fact that tests all come up negative. I dont know how I can live knowing that she is dying. If anyone has been in a similar situation, I would be interested in knowing how you found peace. Also, I don;t want to give up hope yet. If you have heard of a similar situation and know of someone that was able to do something (she has only been to one doctor, so I dont want to give up hope just yet) to get better, please let me know.

HI there, I just read your post and felt like you were me writing this  message. My mom is my very best friend, we see each other daily and talk at least twice a day. she was diagnosed Aug 2007 with lung cancer in one lung. she has 2/3 of it removed in september and then under went chemo and radiation. all her scans were coming back normal and fine. She even went back to work in July of 2008. Right before her last scan in Nov she hurt her shoulder pulling up her pants. they said perhaps arthritis and bercitis. although she is on 57, it wasnt cancer is all I heard; so great... Her scan said the cancer returned in BOTH lungs and spread to her liver and in that shoulder. I am devastated and pregnant, also have a 2.5 year old that adores her "ma" (thats what she calls grandma) so i am on the verge of losing my mind. They are going to try chemo again and then with best hopes maybe shell go into remission. if not I am not sure what comes next. all i know is that i cant imagine life without her for one second. I came to this site looking for support  also. I am so sorry to hear your moms run out of options. Is she comfortable? did they give her a time line? if you ever want to chat my email is

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Best of Luck. please write back... Tammy

I am in the SAME boat. My mom and I are extremely close. She is my best friend. She was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer Stage 4 in Feb 2005. She is in the fight of her life...we have done chemo, radiation, tomotherapy, and now they want to try a "new" kind of chemo. But who knows...sometimes I feel like giving up hope, but looking at how tough she is and the strength she has...I only admire her and hope to one day be able to have the strength she possesses. Hang in there...