From one caregiver to another, it is absolutly a living nightmare to watch a spouse go thru this. Fortunately we had some good support from Nurses and Doctors. My husband biggest problem is hiccups.
He has had them for 3 months now. I do have some suggestions for your husbands diet. I make soft tasty meals. What you might call comfort food. For snacks and nutrition we use yougart, pudding cups, jello, fresh fruit cut up small. I make him a shake with a couple scoops of ice cream and a banana. He also takes boost and a 1 a day vitamin with iron.
I have read a lot of these letters and happily my husband never had all this pain after. Or nausua.
His problem is the hiccups and draining. We were told from the beginning that it would take a long time to recover. So we mentally adjusted for that.
I found that what worked for me was to block everyone and everything from my mind and to concentrate on him. I know at times you are caught between crying for his pain and frustration for what you have to do but thats when I tell myself that he is still here and he is cancer free.
I just found this Web site and hope by now your husband is feeling much better.
We also use a hunt and peck method. When he was diagnosed I asked my DR for some valium for me. I found that by giving that to him now he sleeps peacefully thru the night! except for hiccups.