Latest messages for CancerCompass discussion http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,29781,0.htm Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:00:00 GMT Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:00:00 GMT http://backend.userland.com/rss RSS.NET: http://www.rssdotnet.com/  On 10/29/2008 lovingevryday wrote:Well as you know my mom was dx with lung cancer and bone cancer. She will be starting radiation nxt month. My family and I are soooo exhausted! I don't know if it's the medication or if it's just her in general ( which she has never been like this before) but she has become very needy and mean. My mom has always been very independent and trust me when I say we don't mind doing things for her! It's about time we did!!!! But, when we do, all we do is get yelled at or down talked to. Then she is always repeating herself about things in the past and gets worked up which she cannot afford to do! I try to calm her but she has to continue. I try to tell my siblings and her husband it's the meds that are doing this to her. No one wants to believe that and I feel like I am the only one that tries to understand. Yes, she gets snippy with me and at times repeats herself over and over but I just sit there and listen to her and I don't take things to heart. Does anyone have any information or experiences that could be shared with me and my family.Cancer is such an ugly word not only for the patient but for the caregivers as well. When you are first told you have cancer all you hear is "you are going to die". It took me 3 months before I went a day without crying. It is so obvious your mom is afraid and doesn't know how to deal with the fear in a not so good manner. There are some really great support groups...I would even suggest talking to someone from hospice (I so love hospice folks) even if your mom is not dying at this time. It sounds as if you are doing the right thing however you need to take care of yourself. Perhaps her meds need to be reevaluated. Is she taking narcotics or benzodiazepines? Is she in pain? Being in pain can make a person really wacky. Hang in there. Just know you are not alone.  Patsy  MaEarth Sat, 20 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT Well I think you are handling your mother's situation very well. My sister also had lung cancer spread to her bones. After she went into remission and started feeling better she became sybil at times. I tried to take it like your doing, but I lost my composure a few times. Its a unthankful job taking care of a loved one as their yelling or snippy with you...I know. But hang in there cause one day you could be me...just wishing she was still here to yell at me.  Becky55 Sat, 20 Dec 2008 00:00:00 GMT Well as you know my mom was dx with lung cancer and bone cancer. She will be starting radiation nxt month. My family and I are soooo exhausted! I don't know if it's the medication or if it's just her in general ( which she has never been like this before) but she has become very needy and mean. My mom has always been very independent and trust me when I say we don't mind doing things for her! It's about time we did!!!! But, when we do, all we do is get yelled at or down talked to. Then she is always repeating herself about things in the past and gets worked up which she cannot afford to do! I try to calm her but she has to continue. I try to tell my siblings and her husband it's the meds that are doing this to her. No one wants to believe that and I feel like I am the only one that tries to understand. Yes, she gets snippy with me and at times repeats herself over and over but I just sit there and listen to her and I don't take things to heart. Does anyone have any information or experiences that could be shared with me and my family. lovingevryday Wed, 29 Oct 2008 00:00:00 GMT