Butter,
I kind of know how you feel. I was diagnosed with inoperable primary liver cancer last January and it's been a wild and scary ride since then. I'll offer a few things I have found along the way. You will be very lucky if you ever find a doctor upon whom you can rely to completely manage this illness for your loved one. It will be up to you to step up to the plate, learn as much as you can, and figure out what needs to be done, by whom, and when. Doctors are just one resource you call into play as you need them. Very few folks get cured of this disease. Only 10% or so are eligible for transplants and/or surgical removal of the tumors. The best most of us can do is try to manage the disease and extend our lives as much as we can. Fortunately there are lots of treaments available and more becoming so: chemoembolization radio frequency ablation, stereotactic radiosurgery, Nexavar, etc. Google these and get as smart as you can about them. I have found that taking things one day, one week, one month at a time is a healthy way to approach it. What can you constructively do today, this week, etc. to mamage the illness. The internet is a vast resource and can help immeasurably in this. Most of all pur your trust in God.
Andy H.