dont know what to do

hi i am a 44 yr old man.

i was diagnosed with aml in jan 2006. went threw induction .and then 3 consolidation therapy. went in to remission got feeling better and got back to work for a few months and in jan. 2007 i had relapse. went in for treatment my counts were nil and my appendix blew dont remember much of that month i was in hospital my wife and my dauter took care of me had to have wounds packed in stomach and iv antibiotics after i came home in april 2007 i went to an arbor mi. to the university of michigan for stem cell transplant. lived in anarbor for 3 months.when we got to come home my wife was to go back to work. in aug and found out she had breast cancer now i am the care giver she went threw 4 treatments of chemo and the started taxol chemo after 1 treatment my wife had a major stroke two days after thanksgiving 2007. she has been threw months of therapy she has no use of left side and it has affected her brain alot she doesent seem like the same person she has to have 24/7 care and i feel like i am getting wore out we have used all our savings and 401ks just to keep going while we were going threw cancer. now we are both on disability and losing everything . i love horse and have been trying to get a therapeutic riding center for kid with disabilities and with cancer. i seen alot of kids in an arbor and would love to do somthing to make them forget the pain and sickness for a little while. but dont know how i can take care of wife and the center l feel so stressed out and dont know where to turn

any help would be greatly appreciated.  thanks jeff

Hi Jeff, I saw your note here and just wanted to say hello and offer some moral support. I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Is it possible for you top get some help via Medicare or Medicaid to care for your wife e.g. home health aides, etc. Does the hospital have a social worker that you can talk with/ Maybe there is an agency that can offer some respite care so that you can get a break. My mom had 5 strokes but managed to recover after each one of them,. It does take time but the brain can recover. PLease see what help you can get from your state and local agencies and or the Cancer Society and or rehab services at the hospital. I will pray for you! Mal

hi ma

i have medicare and i tried to get medicaid for my wife because it has not been 2 yrs yet. we were told we make to much on disability. so we have a $1400.00 a month spend down before medicade will kick in we make $1900 a month and they wont count your house payment.so they told me.

but my wife had a very severe stroke has 100% blockage in right vein going from lower neck up into the brain drs are say she has done better than ever thought would hasnt had any progress for about 5 months but i pray every day sometime i just get discouraged my prob. is if i need a break she gets very jealous and dont want nobody else to take care of her because she needs help doing every thing she was there with me when i went threw every thing. so i feel guilty sometimes. stress is wiaring me out thank you for talking to me and your prayers jeff.