As a cancer survivor,so far, I want to acknowledge your support. But please don't be so quick to diminish the great value of supportive spouses, partners and caregivers as secondary agents.The treatment I received was brutal and life-saving but I could not have done so well so easily with the loving and constant support of my wife as well as that of the doctors, nurses, technicians and nutritianists. And please do not be so willing to give up your role in favour of becoming a patient. There is nothing nobel or heroic about going through cancer. There is only hard work, fear, dependency, surrender and dedication. I don't mean to be harsh but some of your facts are not correct - about 1 of 3 people in North America will get some form of cancer. Of those treated, many will have a complete response, many will not and many, many will have a recurrance.The doctors do not generally speak of cure - they tell us we are disease free for now. They are not being evasive - only realistic.When we read the stats on caner we read of being illness free for 2 years, 3 years or 5 years and the lucky ones never get it again - but no guarantees - successful treatment for all it's effectiveness is not a lifetime cure. Cancer patients often look at their lives as pre diagnosis and post. We will many of us, be looking over our shoulders for the rest of our ,lives. this is not to say life is over in any way. In fact, so many of us are bent on making very effective us of our daily lives having learned how precious time is.
I wish you well and applaud your efforts as a caregiver. Your partner is lucky to have someone like you who respects effor to get well. I hope you live a long and healthy life and never join the ranks of being a cancer patient.
Best for the new and coming years.