Hi John!
My 35 yr old son is battling Ewing's Sarcoma. His spinal tumor (we thought there was only one at the time, but there were several) was removed by a general surgeon. He thought that it was a benign meningeoma...it wasn't. Instead of stopping the surgery and asking an oncology surgeon for an opinion, he removed the mass and sent it for testing. He did not push for a quick diagnosis. He just kept telling us that no news was good news. During this period he ran no further tests. 3 1/2 weeks later he contacted an oncologist to give us the bad news. The oncologist was an breast cancer doctor. He had no idea what he was dealing with. My son was still walking at that time. Long story short, my son ended up paralyzed from the chest down. 3 1/2 weeks were wasted when he could have been in treatment. Thanks to a good friend's advice (to whom we will be forever grateful) my son and his wife left that same night for Sloan-Kettering in New York. They are amazing! They reran all of the tests, got a team together, a plan together, and started chemo the next day.
My advice to you is run, run, run to a sarcoma specialist. Anywhere else is a waste of precious time. Good luck to your wife. She is in my prayers.
Mom Windy