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Hi, My name is Leah I am 30 years old have a husband and 2 kids (4&7) and My mom who is 54 just was diagnosed with stage 4 met. breast cancer to the liver. My husband is building our new house, I am moving on the 30th..and I feel like I am going to break, literally!! I want to be with her 24/7..I love her so much. The other frustration for me is her DOCTOR...HE MISSED this whole thing!!! My mom went in for her yearly's, got her mamograms and had asked her doc. about this hurting bump on her left breast (this was 5 years ago) keep in mind that her paternal grandmother died from breast cancer, her sister had it as well as her cousin and her aunt. He sent her in for a mamogram, it came back fine, then 6 months ago she was having some heartburn stuff (she is VERY HEALTHY) she went in to show him that she had an actual BUMP in between her ribcage and he told her that it was a pulled mucsle and sent her home with a muscle relaxant...Well the bump never went away she went back, he FINALLY told her to get a biopsy...and BAMMMM It was liver cancer...from her breast cancer that she never knew that she had....3 weeks ago she was diagnosed....aarrrggghhhhh!!!!! They are doing chemo every 3 weeks, and they have given her no more than 5 years...sorry I am going offff!!! You know through all of this We all have to remember that the Lord has a plan for all of our lives, and even though all of this is hard, he is here for us huh?? I am excited to find this site...I need it..Thanks

hi Leah,

i just had to write to you and tell you how sorry i am to hear about your mom. i understand how frustrating it can be for people when they feel that more could have been done. one of my doctor's also missed the lump in my breast just six weeks before i found it. fortunately, i pushed to have an ultrasound and found out that my lump was cancerous and within just a few weeks i had surgery to remove it. i also had chemo for 4 months, and finished with 5 weeks of radiation. that all started in feb. 2004. we really need to be our own advocates and your mom also has you on her side, which will help. i am glad you are reaching out for help and support and you seem relieved to have found this group, but i can recommend a group particularly for breast cancer that you will surely find invaluable. i know they were the BEST when i needed it the most! i hope no one else takes offense, i just think that sometimes it is nice to have a more targeted group available also. the group is called FIT, which stands for Friends in Touch, and you can go to their website by using this address http://groups.msn.com/FriendsInTouchCareTeam
I have said a prayer for you and your mom, and your family.

take care,
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Hi Leah
I completly understand your frustrations. My Mom too, 61 years old was diagnosed last october with cancer, Astrocytoma brain tumor grade 4. At first it was mistaken believe it or not as a sinus infection and her doctor & he gave her some pain medicine for the headaches. Now my Mom is in her final stages and is on Hospice, they have been a great help so far.
She went from a vibrant woman full of life to a helpless child like frail being in a matter of months. I started taking pictures of her when she was first diagnosed every week, It is actually helping me let her go because I see her decline and I can't help but think heaven is a MUCH better place for my dear Mom to be that her room. Hang in there honey and write back if you need to vent. Hugs, Anna