Sue & Trish--
Forgive me for jumping in--you both sound like the best of dog owners and I am so sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough patch with your beloved pups.
I don't know that anyone has suggested it to you, but if you REALLY want to hear more stories of TCC in dogs, hop over to the regular bladder cancer area and look for the thread with over 750 entries--it's been going on for a long time and is all about different stories of various people, their dogs and TCC.
I just want to throw out a couple of things to you. I've seen it mentioned before, but do TRY to make sure you are seeing an oncologist as your specialist. They will jump right to the point where you need to be and their advise should be what you would want to follow. I just switched vets and was shocked to hear this new one tell me she had just operated on a dog for cancer when we have a great oncology center less than a half hour away. I felt she was "experimenting" when she should have been referring.
Second, try not to worry (I know easier said than done) but it takes away from you truly enjoying the moments that you have with your beloved pet.
And last, no one really knows what the future will hold for your pups. Tomorrow my dog and I are going to a party at our oncologist's. Annie has been living a mostly fabulous life for the past four years with TCC. We've had some bad patches, but we are the luckiest two going. Her only treatment was early diagnosis and piroxicam, which she tolerated well. I tell you this to give you both hope.
Annie WILL turn 14 this year, her hearing is going and she is not as spry as she used to be. And in the end, it still may be the TCC that gets her; I hope not, but we're still having a great run of it!
Good luck to you both; you will be remembered in our prayers tonight.
Marty (& Annie)