Desperate for any help

8/2/08- mother n law went to er for gallstones had gallbladder removed. week and a half later was told she had cancer.

9/11/08-went in for surgery removed 2/3 of liver, part of stomach, reconstructed bile duct. Dr. said he got all the cancer but as a precaution she should do  chemo/radiation. She did about 5 weeks of this and had a ct scan and the radiation fried her colon (11/21/08) she then had to have an ileostomy.

12/17/08-Went to hospital for swelling and not going to the bathroom right kidneys have shut down. had to have stents put in. ultrasound shows fluid in bladder but was told it is ascites in the abdomen. 12/23/08 - was given 7 to 10 days to live. She has been doing dialysis but now she is having sever e pain.

???- has anyone had any experience with this as to give any hope at all. everything that has taken place just seems so hard to believe. Any info would be greatly appreciated.

I am so sorry to hear what you are all going through.  I wish I could offer something positive.  My mother died in Aug. of 2008. I know what you are feeling.  My best advice is to tell her how very much you love her and be by her side.  I miss my mother every single day.  I hold on to the belief that we will be together again.  I try to live my life in a way that she would be proud of me, and I raise my son as she raised me.  She was quite an extaordinary woman and the most wonderful mother in the whole world in my opinion.  Please cherish your mom (in-law) now and forever.

Im so sorry to hear obout your mother in law. I lost my mother in september 2006 to gallbladder cancer she was supposed to have the same operation your mum in law had but when they opened her up they said the cancer had spread too far to operate she died a few days later.

It was so sudden she was only diagnosed in July 2006 and was full of life before this it was so sudden.

Please use the time together well because there are many things I would love to say to my mother and they would only take a couple of hours but I dont have that and never had any time really with her.

Take care and all the luck in the world Richard.