I'm sorry you are going through this. I was diagnosed with vaginal cancer Dec. 07, I had to have chemo and rads. I now have recurrent vaginal cancer in the same area, mostly rad damage with minute traces of cancer cells I was told. So I am having the Cyberknife proceedure to avoid a very morbid surgery.
I'm glad they found this when it was still VAIN. I know that tx is horrible. As far as vaginal reconstruction, they would remove the vagina, and in most instances perform the reconstruction at the same time. If you are faced with such a surgery, I would request reconstruction be done at the same time. I've spoken with quite a few women who have had a vaginectomy with reconstruction and they are doing just fine. Of course you will need to have lubrication for intimacy, but I'm sure you will still need that after using the tx you are using now. I was told recovery wasn't too difficult with this proceedure.