One Year Since Cancer Diagnosis

Throat cancer is one of those "survivorable " cancers, but at the very least it will change your day to day living.  Stay on your kids about the consequences...talk with them.  I'm only 55 but we had our kids early.  When I was diagnosed and then was told of the upcoming surgery, all three of my adult children smoked, but quit.  Now that the dust has settled, one went back to smoking, one did but has quit again, and the third one is pregnant, but admits that she "misses" smoking. Even as bad and final that the "full laryngectomy" is, its a great example of the strong addiction of nicotine and the overwhelming control it has on some, not all, but some.  So with that being said, don't assume your kids won't smoke just because you had throat cancer....talk to them and make sure you keep the human element, the personal human element attached to the act itself and your health issues.  It should be our primary role as parents.  My kids may have very well smoked whether I did or not....but I'll never know that, because I did smoke.....man.....  

hey mike just a short note to say it helps as i go back and reread what each of you all have to say. kerry seems to be doing very well mentally but the swelling is still there. guess it will go down someday. we have learned to adjust and he at least smiles and in his own way jokes that i can handle any way it has been 2 &1/2 months from having the surg. so we will keep going forward i hope. a friend sandy

 

On 7/11/2009 dadof3girls wrote:

your original message really hit home with me> I am just 40 years old and been treated for neck cancer from 26 years of smoking. Just last month my sister just 42 years old lost her battle to breast cancer, she never even thought about smoking, no family history of cancer. Like you said she was just living. I should be gone not her! My only comfort is knowing that my daughters will never smoke after watching what i endured.

Joe

 

hey joe hope you are doing ok. if you don't mind me asking did you have your voice box removed? i am sorry also for you and your sister. we as humons take life for grante i guess i do do not fine tiem for myself but i keep hoping i can stay strong to take care of kerry as i told mike kerry is doing very well for now. he still has feeding tube wants it out we had the swollow test yesterday but i do not feel he is ready to have it removed. he wants to but i will leave it up to the doctors. a friend sandy

myself after all the flaps in early 09 and radiation from 08 no chance of a singer valve they offered me a mic, no thanks  family getting good at reading my mind,writing is a drag, most public plays are still polite,worst ones are the goverment agencies unbeliveable the way they roll their eyes at ya  i just bang my fist on the counter and write down i get better treatment from the local DQ  walk out  then i touch base with my local elected officals justhope the cancer dont return for  round 3 running out of places to get flaps from last round took 3 flaps to stop the leaks

 

On 7/18/2009 hammerbit wrote:

myself after all the flaps in early 09 and radiation from 08 no chance of a singer valve they offered me a mic, no thanks  family getting good at reading my mind,writing is a drag, most public plays are still polite,worst ones are the goverment agencies unbeliveable the way they roll their eyes at ya  i just bang my fist on the counter and write down i get better treatment from the local DQ  walk out  then i touch base with my local elected officals justhope the cancer dont return for  round 3 running out of places to get flaps from last round took 3 flaps to stop the leaks

gee that is just like kerry he wont use his spearker val and wont write just tries to do make up his own sign langue bummer i do not know what to expect i jus try to be there for what ever i can do. as for eating he would rather drink his suplements the dr. ordered for him and i can say that is good he needs to eat. but you can lead a hourse to water but you can not make then drink. so i can't make him eat or talk if he don't want. i hope things get better for you for we are all there to listen read and help in any way we can a friend sandy

my wife is a great little cook lots of homemade soups  be sure to cut it up good  chicken rice ranks up there   her macaroni soup with lots of veggies and pork  along with potato soup  MMMMMmmm   cream sytle corn with a can of milk does a good soup , rest of those canned chunky soups taste like they came out of a back end of a dog,,thankful for having her,just buried a dear friend of my a month ago seen him just before he expired was heart breaking to see him all alone with nobody we are all thankful for what you gals do for us ,but i know you feel as we appear ungrateful at times try  some homemade chicken rice soup make a big pot of it enough for both of you to last a few days .dont ask him if he wants it just do it, also i missed salt  LOL try a beef brotch drink a few times aday just for a change tell him then slowly get him talked into just sampling a few soups if you want just ask sally in a message to share her meal ideas with you,but you will have to ask her,she will just say she dont want to ask me for meal ideas,asians are funny that way cream of broccoli too i fine enjoyable

yahhhh i fought like h not to get one after my first surgery and radiation was on lots of gravy then when cancer returned in late08 wasnt able to swallow for over 3 months they put in a  g -tube or what ever they call those feed tube roughly 2 weeks before i came home tell ya what that thing was out first chance just something about it very poor quality of life in our minds ,sandy let him try a chicken or beef brotch as a drink the salt is good for us males   lol  sally nagged at me about the salt in it,in fact still does with those feed tubes just flush it lots let kerry try by mouth first chance just tell him if you dont eat,back to the tube feed, i live 200 miles away from where my doctor is first follow up appointment was a month after i got released .i just went to local ER either you guys take it out or i will

i see you from east of dallas get kerry out take him for a drive  south of the white oaks exit take him down the old texas forest trail to london nice afternoon drive im sure he will enjoy it

 

On 7/19/2009 hammerbit wrote:

my wife is a great little cook lots of homemade soups  be sure to cut it up good  chicken rice ranks up there   her macaroni soup with lots of veggies and pork  along with potato soup  MMMMMmmm   cream sytle corn with a can of milk does a good soup , rest of those canned chunky soups taste like they came out of a back end of a dog,,thankful for having her,just buried a dear friend of my a month ago seen him just before he expired was heart breaking to see him all alone with nobody we are all thankful for what you gals do for us ,but i know you feel as we appear ungrateful at times try  some homemade chicken rice soup make a big pot of it enough for both of you to last a few days .dont ask him if he wants it just do it, also i missed salt  LOL try a beef brotch drink a few times aday just for a change tell him then slowly get him talked into just sampling a few soups if you want just ask sally in a message to share her meal ideas with you,but you will have to ask her,she will just say she dont want to ask me for meal ideas,asians are funny that way cream of broccoli too i fine enjoyable

it is a blessing to talk to you all. had a good day today at church. i enclud kerry in every thing. maybe in time he will do better i do fix any thing to get it down him. he is not loosing weight at teh moment so that is good. i fixed old fashion potatoe soup sat for him he likes it even beter with out the chuncks any way thanks for getting back with me sandy

There are a lot of people who want to boo hoo and criticize or beat up the tobacco companies.  A lot of you need some education. I am no more intelligent than the rest of you.  I too have no larynx, no tongue and a few other missing parts. I get to spend the rest of my life feeding myself with a syringe.

            We all have something in common called ignorance! The tobacco companies did exactly the same thing you are subjected to everyday.  Advertise in a manner that preys upon the ignorance of the general public.  Politicians thrive on it.  The Federal Government and Corporate America depend upon your ignorance. They simply accept the fact that most Americans are gullible enough believe anything heard on TV or Radio. Most are 95% convinced  none of you will do any research. You are all ready to jump on the ole bandwagon and go along with any claim that gets media attention.

 

Are You Sure Smoking and Drinking are Responsible for Your Cancer?

 

In 1996 I opened a Kiln used to fire Ceramics. The first breath I took as the lid opened  burned  my throat so bad I had to drop the lid and run. My voice box was never the same again. None of the Doctors I had would even consider the possibility that it had anything to do with cancer.  They are unwilling to accept any possibility other than cigarettes.

 

Do a little research on what your Government claims are acceptable levels of chemicals put into most drinking water. Chemicals they claim cause cancer.  That information could lead to a coronary and spare you that horrible cancer death you know will come sooner or later.

 

 

 

Oral Sex Cause of Throat Cancer Rise

July 29, 2009               WebMD Health News

 

Changing Face of Throat Cancer

Smoking and alcohol abuse were once considered the only major risk factors for these  cancers, but this is no longer the case.

American Cancer Society Chief Medical Officer Otis Brawley, MD, said as many as half of the oropharyngeal cancers diagnosed today appear to be caused by HPV infection.

“Changing sexual practices over the last 20 years, especially as they relate to oral sex, are increasing the rate of head and neck cancers and may be increasing the rates of other cancers as well,” he said.

 

 

Your Doctor and media hype blame cigarettes for your cancer and you want to sue the tobacco company. So! Who does these latest cancer victims get to sue?  Surely they are entitled to a scapegoat just as much as you are.