I'm sorry you are going through this. I honestly think you need to get a second opinion before you have a cone biopsy because the results seem so mixed. I have some questions for you, though, and the answers to these questions might help you have a better idea of what has been happening.
1. Have you seen any of the lab reports? If not, please call the office and tell them to fax them to you or have a copy of them ready for you to pick up. It will be your first step in educating yourself.
2. Did the doctor do an ECC? If not, insist on it. Or when you see a different doctor, have it done, then. You may want to consider another doctor, altogether. Between looking at the lab reports, making sure all steps were taken to diagnose you, and getting the second opinion, you'll be able to determine if you really need a cone biopsy. If you don't, you'll have spared yourself a lot of anger and grief. If you do need the cone biopsy, you'll have more confidence about it.
3. When did you have the Gardasil shots? You are the third woman who had Gardasil and then developed dysplasia. This is not to frighten or upset you because I know you are already feeling that way. But if there is a juxtaposition, then we need to get more answers.
In the meantime, is there anybody in your family you can talk to? It helps so much to have a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes our families may want to help us but don't know how. So, we have to tell them exactly what would help. And if you do need a cone biopsy, please don't hesitate to have somebody go with you to at least hold your hand and to help you arrange child care, that day. It makes all the difference in the world to have somebody there.