My Dad Has Cancer

My dad called last night, telling me that his bladder is full of cancer and on Nov 8, he has to go into the hospital to take out his bladder, so he will have to use a bag for that part of his body.
DH is a first aid attendant at work, so he said that Dad will be fine, I am really scared though that this maybe the last time I see my dad.

I had bladder cancer a couple of years ago. My baldder was removed but I was lucky and instead of a bag the doctors reconstructed a bladder inside my body. Sometimes they can and sometimes they can not. Your dad should check with his doctor. I had my surgery done at USC in California. I live in Texas
Your dad should be OK. It has been 2 years for me and I thank G_D every day. They have made tremendous headway in detection and treatment.
I also have a friend in his late 60's who had his bladder removed a few months ago and has a bag. He lives a very happy life and does everyhting swims, hikes etc.
I don't think i can provide my personal data in the forum but I am willing to talk to your dad by email or phone if it helps him. I had a lot of people helping me and it was great to have someone to talk to that had gone through what I was going to go through.
He is going to need support, patience and pushing.
Luis

My dad just had his bladder removed and he had tow complications. he had and abscess and then a blood clot. he also had a neo-bladder bulit. he is very depressed due to fatigue and incontience. would you talk with him via email? if so please let me know where he can write to you.


Deb

would you talk with my dad who just went thorugh the sugery eight weeks ago. where can he email you?

Deb

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After my surgery i also was very depressed, he will get better. It is good news that he had a neobladder. To me it is much better than the bag. He is going to have to learn to urinate and it will be a little frustrating at first but after a while he will be able to do it right and have great control especially during day time hours. It's a little harder when you are asleep.
Have him email me. I would love to pass on to him my experiences and to let him know that THERE IS LIGHT and that his quality of life will not be affected almost at all.
I imagine he is still with the foley. It takes about 3 weeks from the day of the surgery for them to take it out.
Good luck. Have him email me
Luis Lidsky

I will have dad email you. his name is bob/robert. he is 8weeks post op but had an abcess and blood clot which set him back. he is now experiencing stomache aches.

thanks again,
deb

Hello i just learned my dad has to get his bladder out and he keeps saying if he knew he could live a normal life. and if he had someone to talk to or i could tell him of someone who had it done and he knows what its like and how they live their life he would be so much at ease. i would  love anything you could tell me. my email is daddysgirlmunk@yahoo.com I dont want my dad to give up thanks for any help