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I first located this message board back in September 2008.. I wrote about my sister, 45 years old battling breast cancer for the second time.. Since then she has been in and out of the hospital.. Her pain unbearable to see and hear.. Now I just found out that the cancer is spreading so quickly now in her liver and brain, her whole body is completely swollen.... The doctors told me in Aug that she had six months and the only thing they can do is keep her as comfortable as possible.... I try to function and I try to remain strong for her husband and young son... My sister's faith is so strong and yes I have prayed for a miracle to be granted to her, and I have prayed for her to be confortable... Now she is back in the hospital after the doctors punctured her lung when they were draining some fluid... She is on oxygen now, and her pain medication has increased considerably.. They are once again moving her into a Palliative care unit soon... She is so fragile and it truly breaks my heart to see this again...I want to believe she is going to have a bit more time with us, I want to believe she will overcome this, I want to believe,,, I really want to believe... At times I feel terrible that I pray for her to live longer but I upset myself when I know she is in so much pain... I can imagine you all have had those mixed emotions from time to time....

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Gentile

I am truly sorry for what you are going through. I don't think you should feel badly because you want your sister to be with you for as long as possible. My breast cancer brought my sisters closer to me. All you can do is be there for her...even when she is in pain just be there to let her know that you love her, her husband and your nephew. I knew that one of my greatest fears is that I will not be there for my kids and my grandkids (if I ever get any of those). When you go through cancer you really think very little about yourself and more about the people you will leave behind. Just give your sister as much peace of mind as you can. If she knows that those she loves will be looked after she will rest much easier. If you can go out of this world feeling loved it will make the journey so much better. Faith is great but peace of mind will make her journey so much better. Stay strong for her....Janet

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KayleighGrace

Dear Sylvia:

My heart goes out to you and your family. I think one of the toughest things for me when I found out about my breast cancer was seeing the pain in my family's eyes. I'm with Gentle. If you know (or your sister knows) that there is a plan to take care of her family, including you, she will have more peace. When her journey ends she will be with God and she will be in his arms. There is not a more painfree, warmer and safer place to be. Your sister may need you to just sit and hold her hand. She can feel your love with the warmth of your hand and presence. She may need you to tell her it is okay to go. I can't imagine how painful this is for you. I feel like I can identify with your sister in some ways because I have wondered what would or will happen to my family should it come to this for us. My heart breaks for you more than you know. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Deb

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Sylvia3

Thank you Janet for your kind words... Every moment I am with my sister I am grateful for the time, and I have let her know how much I love her... She and I have cleared up everything and have shown eachother our love more than ever.. My brother-in-law just spoke with the doctors and they informed him that the cancer has spread throughout.. I know she will be with our mother, father, brother and God soon... May peace be with you and I will pray for you and your health... God Bless... and thank you !!

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Sylvia3

Deb, thank you dearly for your words... I know my sister hurts when she sees our tears and pain as well... She seems more concerned about the rest of us than herself.. bless her heart.. My brother-in-law was just informed the cancer has spread throughout.. She will be at peace soon and with our mother, father and brother and God.... She knows how much I love her and she is aware of the strong love and support with the people who surround her... I am just struggling so very much... I thank you and I will pray for your well being and health... God Bless. I am so bothered that Cancer seems to touch everyone one way or another, every family has to deal with this terrible terrible thing...

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jbnhcd

I am so so sorry about your sister! I do know a lady that had breast cancer when she was 38, it spread to her liver, brain, stomach and everywhere else. They said she wouldn't make it and that was 7 years ago and she is doing great today. So, never stop praying for a miracle. I know if it was my sister I would be praying just like you are! Again I am so sorry and will also say a prayer for you and your sister and family!

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Kittycath

Oh my, can't life just be unbearable at times? I want to share some of my favorite quotes that may help you cope:

Hard things are put in our way, not to stop us, but to call out our courage and strength.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, "I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along." . . . You must do the thing you think you cannot do. — Eleanor Roosevelt

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MaxBaxter

Miracles do happen.

I will pray for your sister and you tonight.

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Sylvia3

I pray for all of you and your families who are going through such a difficult time. My dearest sister whom I have written about, passed away on March 1st. She has a place in heaven, away from pain and tears. I would like to "Thank" those of you who shared messages with me, who thought of us in your prayers and who spent the time writing beautiful quotes of encouragement. Thank you.. The time I spent on this message board did help me a lot.. I will keep all of you who battle cancer and your families in my prayers and yes, please do believe. Pray, God will be your comfort and strength, and whatever happens God will be glorified through you. God Bless

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