Hi,
For a second opinion, you definitely need to go to a research facility. If it were me, I would consult UPenn in Philadelphia, and Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville.
These were the facilities from which my husband was getting second opinions for a different type of cancer.
If you are willing to travel, MD Anderson in Texas has an incredible reputation.
If radiation is indicated, check out Indiana University Hospital's Midwest Center for Proton Radiotherapy (I believe that is the name--google it), which has fewer side effects than IMRT, but is also very effective.
My husband is currently getting treatment at University of Michigan in Ann Arbor. We are treated with such respect, concern, and kindness, and our needs as a family are ALWAYS taken in consideration before decisions are made. We feel as if we are part of the team, and communication is what seems to set this facility apart from other research facilities for us.
Everyone, from cafeteria workers and custodial staff, all the way to doctors who are tops in the nation in research, treat us with respect. I don't know how they do it! We are in Presence when we are here.
Also...parking is $2.00 per day. At UPenn it was $20.00 per day. Ann Arbor was easy to find, and easy to navigate. U Penn was more difficult to navigate. But Jacksonville is WARM!
Best wishes to you and your mother as you seek the best treatment for her.
Linda