Re; Help No More She Needs (My Sister)

Recently I posted a message regarding my sister who was battling urachal cancer for the past 10 months. Well, Staci passed away on Oct. 30th at the age of 43yrs. old, leaving three children behind the youngest Austin 14, my niece 15 and Nick 17, and a husband.Staci donated her body to cancer research because she knows she will be saving someone elses life. Her disease was like 1 in 3 million, go figure because many nights we sat up wondering how in the world she was the one. Not questioning God once however. That was one of her amazing qualities, instead of pitying herself these last painstricting months she counted her blessing, most of us would have ask "why me God?".
Staci found god again 13yrs.and believe it to be true that through her I found my strength to be able to cope with the loss because I know where she is and let me tell you, at her memorial service there was 750 people there to honor my sister! AMAZING!!! If people didn't get it then they got it by the time they left the service, I truly think my sisters job on earth was done ,perhaps she was just an angel here on earth to fix some things in peoples lives, certaintly she has done that, be it through her death, and now God needs her help in HEAVEN and I am o.k. with that because my sister has given me the greatest thing possible in the last 10months of our lives, A closer relationship with GOD. I miss her so much you have no idea, but I know she is waiting for me in heaven, and when it is my time, it is her arms I want extended out reaching for me. Please whoever reads this, the point i am trying to make, life is so valueable, make everyday like it is your last day, you never know,and you really need to have faith in God because those who didn't were the ones who are suffering the most through my sisters loss.

I read your message and I am so sorry. I have a sister with breast cancer just recently told it is back in liver and lungs. Getting a biopsy in liver in a few days. She too has 3 kids...19, 17, 13. I am devastated. I do not know what to say to her, how to act, what to do..nothing. She and I are both Christians and she is in many prayers. She recently went to a different doctor to get second opinion. He is the one who ordered biopsy. First doctor told her a few days ago she has 1 year, 2 top. Other doctor was mortified that he told her that. But now that it was told..it sticks with her of course. She is a single mom that has gone thru so much. What do I say? What is "be yourself"..I can't. I am silent when with her cause I don't know what to say. She cries every time on phone with me. I tell her "this new doctor is going to be great, everything is going to be okay." But I feel its not the right thing to say, I should say something else..but what? She keeps saying that she wants to be 100% cured and travel to different places to tell her testimonial and how God cured her. I tell her you will and that will happen. I feel her friends are more supportive than I with words. I feel so stupid.

Laura,
You will find the strength, trust me.. You don't have to say anything, just being there for your sister is enough believe me. There were plenty of times I felt like a jerk, not knowing what to say or do, if it was the right time to give her a hug or not. Its o.k. if you feel her friends are more supportive with words than you because remember this is your sister we are talking about, someone you spent a lifetime with, so its easier for them with words because sometimes we don't want to face the reality and being that your sister is a christian like you say as mine was, I expected her to be GODS one true MIRACLE and so did she, and that might make you more uncomfortable. So, my advice to you is find your strength in your sisters faith, thats what is helping me get through my sisters loss, because its is the hardest thing I am facing right now but by the closeness she bought me to God brings me alot of comfort these last few weeks since her passing.
You and your sister are in my prayers,
Andrea C.

Laura,
You will find the strength, trust me.. You don't have to say anything, just being there for your sister is enough believe me. There were plenty of times I felt like a jerk, not knowing what to say or do, if it was the right time to give her a hug or not. Its o.k. if you feel her friends are more supportive with words than you because remember this is your sister we are talking about, someone you spent a lifetime with, so its easier for them with words because sometimes we don't want to face the reality and being that your sister is a christian like you say as mine was, I expected her to be GODS one true MIRACLE and so did she, and that might make you more uncomfortable. So, my advice to you is find your strength in your sisters faith, thats what is helping me get through my sisters loss, because its is the hardest thing I am facing right now but by the closeness she bought me to God brings me alot of comfort these last few weeks since her passing.
You and your sister are in my prayers,
Andrea C.

Please do not feel stupid....we all have no clue what to say. My sis, 34, diagnosed with stage 4 Mixed Mullerian Malignant Tumor...she and I are incredibly close and have no problem with words...but this has paralyzed me. I cry all the time, and wonder how am I supposed to make sense of life if she is not physically here...I pray all the time...what I want to say is pray for the words to come..and they will....you are supporting her and that is so important..
Elizabeth