my died from breast cancer

Hello, please help me. My mom finally lost her battle with breast cancer.  I keep going over in my mind about what we could have done differently. A different doctor, different treaments. I was with her every step of the way. It is hard to accept that the battle is over, we fought for 3 years.  Is there any one who is feeling this way. I am so overwhelmed with these feelings.  I loved and miss her so much. Please respond back. Thank you.

I'm sorry to hear about your mom.  Sometimes it doesn't matter what we do, life is still very hard.

Don't be afraid to let your emotions out.  Talk to your mom, tell her that you still love her and that you miss her.  She still lives in your heart, and she will hear you. 

Otherwise, just give yourself time.  Be kind and gentle to yourself, just as you were kind and gentle with your mom.  The past few months were her time for care, now it is your time for care.

I know it's hard, but try to get some laughter in your life.  Laughter and humor are healing - you need them.  Even if you have to force yourself to laugh at something, go ahead and do it.  You will slowly find the laughter becoming genuine, and then you will be able to start healing.

 

Sincerely,

Tre

Wow, caregiver, your Mom was extremely blessed to have such a loving child, like you.  It sounds as though you were really there for her during her struggle.  Now that she has passed on, I am sure she would not want you beating yourself up over her death or her care.  It sounds as though you did all you could.

 Like Tre said, you need to laugh and get out and be around people.  Your Mom would not want you to grieve too deeply and for too long.  Focus on the good times you had together, and not her suffering.  God bless you! 

Hi Honey,

Your Mom knew how much you loved her. Please do not ever feel guilty about her care, you did all you could and you were a good daughter.

Your mom is always with you. She wouldn't want you to sit around feeling sad, she would want you to be happy sweetheart. I know it is hard.

She is with Jesus now and feelingno more sickness or pain.

 

I am praying for you,

Your friend,

Kellyann

I sent you a private reply on 3-8.  I realize that these last few days have be terribly hard and I am sure exhausting to say the least.  I  hope that  I haven't scared you off.  Please, stay in touch.  There are plenty of us who care and will listen, if that is what you want.  Take care and God bless.