Hi Janie,
I understand the pain you must be going through, but bases on our past conversations, it sounds like you need to be strong for the rest of the family, especially for your mom.
This cancer makes a person very week, he most likely doesn't want to eat...the bile backup does that.
Happy to hear about SLK...do everything possible to get hime there ASAP.
Janie, they want that so they can start reviewing the situation, but they will do all the test using their own system...they do not want to rely on test form others, but they need a base to start from. This same thing happen with Karen (my wife).
I'm glad to hear they have a drain tube outside...this will allow the bile to leave the liver area and not be backing up. I see you mentioned the person that is trying to put in the internal stent is having problems, I think you meant that...you wrote the opposit. Internal stents are very difficult and they do not last long, they get clogged and there is no way to unclog the stent other than removing it. My wife has three external drain tubes coming out of her body. On a daily bases I have to flush the tubes in order to keep the bile flowing into the small intestine.
It sounds like you dad's oncologist has good bed side manners, she is being very polite, does not want to panic you...keep in mind you dad has a serious problem.
Okay, I see your dad's Oncologist said intrahepatic, Janie, on the surface this is not so good. Not all but the majority of people with intrahepatic cholangiocarcinoma have large tumors and usually have evidence of regional lymph nodes and/or bone metastases at the time of the diagnosis. Janie, does you have any sign of jaundice...yellowing in the eyes or skin?
Your dad really needs to be seen at SLK ASAP.
That good that he's not experiencing a fever and you're right, make sure he tell you if the feeling chilled...I also understand about the man thing...he bothered and also scared and sometime pissed off about what he's going through...he may not want to worry you guys...keep your eye's on him, you will know if he's having body chills. I had to call 911 at 1:00am one night when Karen could not even talk,scared the hell out of me and the kids.
Janie...always stay hopeful, never cry in front of you dad and as much as possible keep a smile on your face even if your sad...this is very important.
Janie...get you dad to SLK...the worst thing about this cancer, is that it comes on you fast...it's a very slow cancer...it may have started 15 years ago and now came to a head...that why it's so deadly, by the time you see it..it has progress to a point of danger.
Again I hope this helped...I am very sorry to hear about all this, as I said before...stay strong for your dad and your mom...
Also, be sure you take care Janie, you need to stay healthy through all this crap...your mom will look to you for support.
Take care my new friend,
Leonard