I also participate in another web site - hystersisters.com. It has various message threads, one of which pertains to cancer. It also has a good glossary, and very active messaging. One thing I learned at that site is that it is perfectly justifiable to ask the surgeon (or, in my case, I also have a Physician's Assistant assigned to my case) for a review of the surgical and pathology reports. By carefully reviewing this with the medical team, I got the opportunity to question what all those big words meant. As I discussed it with them, new questions came to my mind, and I got really good explanations. My team patiently re-explained things to me if I didn't get it the first time. I know it can seem daunting - but hang in there. As you are not located right near to your clinic, don't be afraid to call. It sounds as if you have a good husband/wife team going - together you'll get the answers you need, I'm sure.