guilt

My husband just recently died of NSCLC.  He was diagnosed in May

and died in August.  I am tormenting myself wondering if I did everything

I could to get him the best help.  We were so limited by our insurance.

I feel so angry and I am second guessing everything we did.  Has anyone

else had this experience after a death?

 

On 3/26/2009 Corey Mae wrote:

My husband just recently died of NSCLC.  He was diagnosed in May

and died in August.  I am tormenting myself wondering if I did everything

I could to get him the best help.  We were so limited by our insurance.

I feel so angry and I am second guessing everything we did.  Has anyone

else had this experience after a death?

 

 

Hello, I lost my mother from NSCLC March 21,2009 and I am very angry because I feel like I didn't save my mother. She was diagnose with lung cancer in January of 2008. I was there with my mother through every treatments. I seen my mother happy and sad times and I am very very lonely without her. the only advice that I have is giving it all to GOD because he is a true healer. We are all here to die even if we are not ready to let go our love ones. Remember that your husband is no longer suffering, he is rejoicing and you have to stop blaming yourself because GOD is never wrong.

 

On 3/26/2009 Corey Mae wrote:

My husband just recently died of NSCLC.  He was diagnosed in May

and died in August.  I am tormenting myself wondering if I did everything

I could to get him the best help.  We were so limited by our insurance.

I feel so angry and I am second guessing everything we did.  Has anyone

else had this experience after a death?

 

My dad passed away on April 23 of this year.  He had same lung cancer and fought it for a year and a half.  I have had so many mixed emotions about his death, I think the most is feeling like maybe I didn't do enough.  But my father told me that if it was God's will for him to get better he would, if not he wouldn't.  I guess God's will was for him to go to heaven.  I think that we want to keep them so bad that we try to figure out every possible way to keep them here.  A friend of mine (who was a preacher) told me that I was trying to take control of a situation that I had no control over.  He was right.  Only God had control.  I think you know you did all you could in your heart, it's just that your heart is like mine, it's broken.  Nothing helps, no words anyone has can really help but they do incourage us.  I am so sorry for your loss.  If you need someone to just talk to  feel free to email me.  If you are like me,  it just seems that no one really understands what you are feeling.  I guess it helps to know someone really knows how you feel.  They have been there.