It's a scary thing and I think it is even harder for the caregiver, as like yourself to watch. What treatments are they offering her? Are they wanting to do chemo, radiation, surigal radiation or all of them like me? Is operating an option?
If they are recommending Chemo, she will be taking cisplatin, which I can tell you isn' that bad...she will feel nautious but it is doable. She may or may not lose her hair, it may just get thin...Mine got thin so I just shaved it off, I mean what other time will you be able to do that?! hahaha The first few days after chemo are the yuckiest but she will get through it with no problem. Ok...now if she has the external beam radiation that's where it get's difficult. At first you feel like it's a piece of cake but as you get more radiation you start to feel the side effects, I constantly got UTI's, just to go to the restroom was rough to the point where I didn't want to go, you are constantly tired but can't sleep, chemo gives you insomnia and radiation gives you fatigue. The radiation had me in tears after a while and then the internal, surgical radiation(brachytherapy) was difficult too. Like I said I had a 9 cm tumor and was hemmoraging badly and with all this treatment it is now gone....so far. I feel good now, I exercise, I still have side effects from treatment like insomnia, UTI's and some fatigue BUT the alternative to not taking treatment would have been death. Ultimitely it is your mom's decision to take treatment BUT it is doable and when you are actually going through it, you are on auto pilot and you just dig deep and do it not just for yourself but more so for the ones that you love. Me afterwards, felt a little bit of remorse, not only can I no longer have children(I don't have any now) but my husband left me(cheated) right after I was done with treatment. He thought I would be back to "normal" right after you are not by any means. You develope scar tissue, if you have the brachytherapy treatment to where you have to use a vaginal dialator everyday for 10 minutes for 12 months. Your mom may not need brachytherapy, so find out what her treatment options are and I will answer anymore questions that you may have. I am an open book about this. Do know that I am healthy and happy and every scan so far and exam has been good and it hasn't even been a year since my last treatment. Let your mom digest all the information that she has received and let me know how they want to treat her. Good luck!