lifting spirits?

my mom has almost had cancer for almost a year now and i have  been noticing that she isnt really saying much and seems very sad, which i understand. I ask her if she would like to go for a ride or anything and just says no. I really would love to take her out to get a chocolate ice cream soda (her favorite) but she just isnt into it... does anyone have any advice...i want to keep her happy, i  miss her smile.

 

On 4/4/2009 cdp212 wrote:

my mom has almost had cancer for almost a year now and i have  been noticing that she isnt really saying much and seems very sad, which i understand. I ask her if she would like to go for a ride or anything and just says no. I really would love to take her out to get a chocolate ice cream soda (her favorite) but she just isnt into it... does anyone have any advice...i want to keep her happy, i  miss her smile.

 

It is so had to think of your parents being sad, maybe you could go get the chocolate soda and bring it to her. Can you surprise her with a  small maybe 2 or 3 friends or family members ice cream social, have the ice cream and all the toppings for all to make their own.  have each guest have their most humorus story involving  your mom ready to tell while eating the ice cream.  Seems I was most smiling when people came to visit it took my mind off of the cancer in me

 

On 4/4/2009 cdp212 wrote:

my mom has almost had cancer for almost a year now and i have  been noticing that she isnt really saying much and seems very sad, which i understand. I ask her if she would like to go for a ride or anything and just says no. I really would love to take her out to get a chocolate ice cream soda (her favorite) but she just isnt into it... does anyone have any advice...i want to keep her happy, i  miss her smile.

How sweet.  Ask her what she needs right now.  Observe her interests and bring little things of cheer: flowers, word search. even a handheld game (deal or no deal ) keep trying..but it sounds like depression, which is perfectly normal.  It is just as hard to come back form this as be sick from it.  It takes a while for the brain to realize the body is no longer ill.  show her you love her with no expectation.  Have some food delivered to eat together.   Just some thoughts.  I don't know how old you are, dear..so do what you can and keep smiling and loving her ...unconditionally.  best wishes