family and friends denial

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family and friends denial

by douglas_anthony on Mon Apr 13, 2009 12:00 AM

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HI everyone.

 My concern right now is that people around me ( loved ones) are in denial about my cancer. I have had the RP, radiation, hormone therapy( which I could not tolerate and so quit doing) and so am currently only on casodex. My PSA is now just starting to rise again and the Doc said it is to soon and to much, he is very concerned but can't give me any advice on what to do. He wants me to see an oncologist now, so I guess I will. My big problem is that my daughter, who I live with, denies that I have cancer, she says there is no reason to think so! I also have a very good friend, who is disabled with MS, who is afraid for me and wants to believe that I am in remission. So how do I talk with my daughter and friend about this? It just isn't possible to argue with them and show the tests and etc. I don't want to scare them yet I don't want them later to think that they neglected me durning this time. It is strange but I suspect common for loved ones to be in denial, yet I sure would like them to be on board so later when it becomes obious that I need them it won't be a shock to them. Any ideas on how I approch them?

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by skidan on Mon Apr 13, 2009 12:00 AM

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Dear Douglas,

   All you could do is be honest and tell them what your doctor said. Its up to them to accept it. You might want to join a prostate cancer support group and get some feedback from other people that had a similar situation. From the tone of yoor post it sounds like you might have given up. I have advanced prostate cancer and I treat myself with alternative treatment, my approach has been effective the last 3 years. This is something you should consider. If you would like more infromation please visit my web site at www.alternativeprostatecancer.com

Hope this helps

Dan

 

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by skidan on Mon Apr 13, 2009 12:00 AM

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Douglas,

   You might have your daughter talk directly to your doctor. After everything you  have been thru how could your daughter think you don't have cancer, it doesn't make sense.

Dan

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by Johnt on Mon Apr 13, 2009 12:00 AM

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Right now your concern should be about getting help and not worring about what others think. Find a good prostate oncologist as there are many new advanced treatments that can keep you living for a long time.

JohnT

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by jcr65566 on Tue Apr 14, 2009 12:00 AM

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Having advance prostrate cancer since 2007 I’ve been down the same road as you I remember the look on my wife and daughter faces when they found out. The look was like, I will  drop dead tomorrow. In a way I wish I never took my wife to see my doctor. Since then  the concern look drives me mad. I use to have friends come over tell jokes have a laugh, but  not any more if anyone comes near me they talk with  long faces it like living in the funeral pallor. O well

 

I found out the hard way If you’re on the hormonal treatment therapy like Casodex its not much good on  it own as its stops working after a while  I found you need  to the repair the damage go to this sit and have a read http://www.cancertutor.com/Cancer/Budwig.html  I went on the Dr Budwig diet and I  never looked back

 

I suppose to be getting an RP on the 27 of may But over the last few months on the alterative treatment I’m on  My last psa coming down from 13.8 to 11.2  and my free psa coming up from 4 to 8 witch is good  I use to have urine retention it gone now and  after talking to a few patients on CC I going to see about having an other  biopsy be for my RP  my last biopsy in 2007  was 3

+ 4 = 7 but when they had another look at it then it was 4+4=8

If you do see an oncologist and he wants to put you on chemo you could ask him about Vitamin d3 I’ve read it will work but only in 40% of cases if you take Vitamin D3 with chemo at  dose of  150,000 UI a day I saw a patient go into remission on chemo with this and he was  taking 5x 1000UI every hour 5 at a time I’ve lost the link to the video on the trial on vitamin D3 and prostrate cancer but what it dos is weaken the cancer and protect the body from the effects of the chemo I know my self Skidan and a few others have a whole pile of information for you if you ask for it take care Ray   

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by Tham on Tue Apr 14, 2009 12:00 AM

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As John said, it's best to concentrate on treating
your condition.

Dealing with the psychosocial repercussions is not
so important and can come later.

You may wish to try out this common herb which can
be found at any Chinese herbal store. It's one of the
components of the formula, PC-SPES, which is no
longer available. Apart from that, you could also
follow Ray's protocol on red clover, the Budwig diet
and other supplements.

Scutellaria baicalensis. The main flavonoids of this plant
with anticancer action are baicalein, baicalin and wogonin.


http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/queryd.fcgi?db=pubmed&

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/queryd.fcgi?db=pubmed&

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/queryd.fcgi?db=pubmed&

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/queryd.fcgi?db=pubmed&


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