Dear K L,
my mom had the whipple done on Sept.8, 2005, and it is a very tough, tough surgery. She was in surgery for 8 hours, hospital stay of 10 days. She will be finishing up her radiation treatments next week, a total of 28, 25 wide, and the last 3 will be directly on the cancer area, which was the head of the pancreas. She had her gall bladder removed, the dueodem, the head of the pancreas and 12 lymph nodes, of which 1 was diseased. She has also been going thru chemo, 2 weeks on, 1 week off. And after next weeks chemo treatment, her dr. is giving her about 3-4 weeks off of chemo, then starting it back up. She is taking gemsitibine. Her taste buds are gone, things that she loved before, she has no desire for now. If we can get 500 calories a day in her, we are having a good day. Last week she had and endoscopy done on her esophogus as she had a narrowing and things were sticking at the end of it, and while they were doing that, it was recommended that a PEG tube be put in her to try and help get more nutrition in her. Right now, things with mom are more mental than anything. She has lost a total of 74 lbs., sleeps quite a bit, very very fatigued. I know she feels like why am I doing all this, and I keep trying to encourage her that it will all be worth it in the long run. Her frustration level is probably at it's peak. The dr. suggested an anti depressant, and I said absolutely. This is my mom's second round of cancer. Four years ago she had stage IV melonoma, and against odds, came thru the surgery {2}, first one to have the melonoma removed, and then 32 lymph nodes removed. My Dad suffered with colon/liver cancer, and I have to say, this seems to be harder on my mom.
Lots of patience, encouragement from the family, the Drs., faith, hope will get you and your husband thru this. A strong family, being there for each other, as it tears you apart to see your loved one suffering, is so important.
Don't be afraid to ask questions to your dr., whether you've already asked them or not. And when your husband goes to the dr. for check ups, and any treatments he may have to have, if there is someone that can go with you, I would advise having that extra set of ears there, as all of this will become so overwhelming at times.
I do lots of internet research, so when a Dr. says this or that, I know what he's talking about, and can have the right question to ask.
Hang in there, and my very best to you & your husband.
Keep me informed on his surgery.
Lynne