Another Angel in Heaven

I've posted messages about my sister, Melissa, and her battle with stomach cancer.  She was passed away yesterday.  She had went to the ER last Monday for trouble breathing.  She'd been having fluid accummulate in her abdomen and then in her lungs and had to have the fluid drawn off every so many days.  They drew fluid off and then her counts dropped (she had chemo the week before so that was expected). Kept in her hospital and gave her blood transfusions and wanted to get her counts up before releasing her. Her kidneys then stopped putting urine out (she had nephrostomy tubes in her kidneys to drain them directly when her kidneys starting shutting down after her surgery awhile back for a bowel obstruction).   Nothing would help her kidneys drain. Doc said that she just had too much fluid that built up in not only her cavities but eventually in the organs themselves and the pressure of that in her kidneys prevented them from draining.  She began declining on Friday with labored breathing and becoming non-responsive for the most part. We were able to wake her up a few times and she was able to talk with us and visit until sometime in the night Saturday then became non-responsive.  Eventually, her lungs just filled up with fluid.  All they could do was make her comfortable and keep her out of pain.  Her whole family and some of her friends were around her the whole time until she passed.  We were all holding her and sitting with her at the bed when she passed away.  It is the hardest thing I have been through....I cannot explain.   She was only 30 and fought so so hard all the way to the end.  My only sister and now there is a hole in my family... a missing piece. 

I can't even begin to tell u how sorry iam. I myself have 2 sisters and could not imagine loosing one of them. Cancer is such a horrible thing, we must work together to help each other through such difficult times. Ones experiences can help another understand so much. My father has a brain tumor gbm and I would not wish it on my worst enemy. Iam so afraid of loosing him, I just can't accept that he won't live much longer. How do I go on with my life? Bless your heart, you and your family will be in my prayers and maybe you can give me and others some strength to get through this. Love kilnrx

 

On 5/25/2009 Tracy06 wrote:

I've posted messages about my sister, Melissa, and her battle with stomach cancer.  She was passed away yesterday.  She had went to the ER last Monday for trouble breathing.  She'd been having fluid accummulate in her abdomen and then in her lungs and had to have the fluid drawn off every so many days.  They drew fluid off and then her counts dropped (she had chemo the week before so that was expected). Kept in her hospital and gave her blood transfusions and wanted to get her counts up before releasing her. Her kidneys then stopped putting urine out (she had nephrostomy tubes in her kidneys to drain them directly when her kidneys starting shutting down after her surgery awhile back for a bowel obstruction).   Nothing would help her kidneys drain. Doc said that she just had too much fluid that built up in not only her cavities but eventually in the organs themselves and the pressure of that in her kidneys prevented them from draining.  She began declining on Friday with labored breathing and becoming non-responsive for the most part. We were able to wake her up a few times and she was able to talk with us and visit until sometime in the night Saturday then became non-responsive.  Eventually, her lungs just filled up with fluid.  All they could do was make her comfortable and keep her out of pain.  Her whole family and some of her friends were around her the whole time until she passed.  We were all holding her and sitting with her at the bed when she passed away.  It is the hardest thing I have been through....I cannot explain.   She was only 30 and fought so so hard all the way to the end.  My only sister and now there is a hole in my family... a missing piece. 

 

My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.  Your sister is not suffering anymore and she is now serving a higher power.

Take care & god bless.

Tracy, I don't know what to say. Cancer is so devasting I never knew it would touch me this closely. I will pray for you and your family. I think I will be posting this same message soon about my father. Thinking of you.

 

Shanda

I am so very sorry for your loss. She was so young, what a terrible thing. Her life was stolen from her. This weekend, I am walking in the Relay for LIfe in my hometown. I will think of your sister as I walk.

Holly

 so sorry for your loss i'm also going thru that my brother has
stomach cancer and now it has spread to his liver. all we can do is
pray and hope for the best and he is also fighting it for his kids he
is 44 yrs old . so i know how you feel . i'll pray for you and your
family that God you guys peace and confort after your great loss.

Dear Tracy,

I am sorry for the loss of your dear sister Melissa.  It is no consolation, but she is at peace now, suffering no more.  I lost my wonderful husband Mike to this monster February 22, 2008 after a three year battle.  I still can't believe he is gone and miss him so.  I know he is patiently waiting for me in heaven and someday I will have the reward of seeing him again.  God bless you and your family.

Diane, Mike's wife

Tracey

I am so sorry for your loss, I can't express how terrible I feel for you and your family. She was only 30 years old, I have a 25 year old daughter, so I feel what your family is going through.  I have followed Melissa's journey through your posts and I thought she would be one of the lucky ones that would beat the cancer.  You were in the right place and at the right time, working for an oncologist who was able to treat her and access to so much information.  However, and only God knows why he decided to take her home so early and I don't think we will ever know but you need to know that you did everything possible to help her.  She probably had more help from you than some other patients who don't have the support at home or access to information as you had.  You were always there for her and I know she appreciated it and loved you for it.

Keep the good memories of her in your heart.

I am so very sorry. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. -amy

Thank you everyone for your words and prayers.  It means much.   This just feels so unreal.  Today is my first day back to work. We had her service on Thursday.  Hardest part is that I work where she got her treatments so that makes it soooo hard because I "see" her here.  The blanket she used to use while getting infusions is sitting behind me.  I just want to run away.  I don't know if I'll make it through the whole day but I know I've gotta work.

I hate this disease with a passion. 

Tracy