Hi,
I had surgery for a wide local excision and it was for VIN with mild to moderate dysplasia. It was emotionally and physically painful. Painful for quite a while. The pain afterward is just that, PAIN, and no matter what you do, it does not go away for awhile and then all of the sudden you start to feel much better down there. I used ice and cool wet cloths and stood in many cool showers and took benadryl for the itching while it was healing. Mine just came back as mild and I have an appt. set up with an gynocologic oncologist for june 1 so he can take more of my vagina away. This is not medical advice so ask your doctor what is best for you.
I did not have a partial vulvectomy, i had less than that. A partial vulvectomy is tramatic and should not be taken lightly. How would he feel if we started hacking away at his penis bit by bit, probably not so good,... that is how we feel. I think that your doctor is a jerk for taking your situation lightly, you are having a portion of your vagina removed and it is emotionally painful as well as physically painful.
Let me know how you are, I am a nurse by the way and I also work on an oncology floor at a hospital. We do not get cases like ours because they are outpatient surgeries so this type of cancer is not discussed ever.
shay