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by Kellyw229 on Wed May 27, 2009 12:00 AM
by NJ123 on Wed May 27, 2009 12:00 AM
My husband is going thru chemo, it's actually every other week and it takes most of the day, then he is back for a few hours of IV fluid to help his kidneys. He has been home on short term disability from his job which is 26 weeks of pay and benefits. But I have to tell you that he is so depressed being home all day long and by himself. He wishes he could go back to work. We all agree that if it were possible for him to go back part time would be the best therapy for him, he would feel productive and part of something, talk to people, etc. Right now he is just home, watching tv most of the day, he doesn't have the drive to do anything around the house, so basically he is on the couch day in and day out.
If there is a way your husband can work a reduced schedule, I am sure it will help him in every way.
by Ever4015 on Wed May 27, 2009 12:00 AM
Some people do work during chemo but not full time. I myself had very bad side effects, but when I was feeling good I popped in and visited work for a few hours and got out and about and I did not really have the energy to do much although I did push myself to walk and keep moving as much as I could. Everyone is different some choose to work and others not, and some can and some just can not, it is all an individual thing, but it is nice to see people and talk and get your mind off things. I am sure he will make the right choice for him.
Take Care and Be Positive
by Betty_in_Vegas on Thu May 28, 2009 12:00 AM
by Susan_L_6 on Thu May 28, 2009 12:00 AM
be very careful with your husband's health. It is number one. I realize not working and being home alone can lead to depression, because it happened to me. But at the same time I stayed home during treatment and got lots of rest, a friend worked during his chemo. he got run down, developed pneumonia, was on a respirator and induced coma for a very long time. They had to stop treating his cancer and work on treating his pneumonia. He was sick so long (three months!!!) that his tumor progressed. His cancer was never cured because of this situation and he lived only another year rather than many years. I think it isn't worth going to work to risk treating the cancer. If your husband does work it should be a reduced schedule with a careful monitoring of his energy level and his health. This is a time in his life that treating cancer and getting his health back is his job. It's awful to be sick for so long, but once the treatment is over and successful he will be able to say he is a long term survivor.
by Diamond_David on Thu May 28, 2009 12:00 AM
On 5/27/2009 Kellyw229 wrote:My husband is going through chemo treatments and hasn't had many side effects from it. His work just recently reorganized and he's now working 12-14 hour days. We're going to ask the doctor this Friday about going out on disability or something because he's just wearing himself out. I am concerned about him sitting around the house though - I've heard that it's best if people can continue to work because they can fight it more. If anyone has any thoughts about working while getting treatment, I would love to hear them~Kelly
by juan on Thu May 28, 2009 12:00 AM
I am already in my fourth year with inmunoterapy (1 year) and chimio (3 years) because a renal cancer with metastesis. Because I have mobility problems I work exclusively from home (PC+ADSL+voice+web conference, others), but I can consider that it is a full time job. When too tired I have to work on the week ends in order to finalise pending tasks.
Despite I will be 64 in August, that the side effects are worsening after so many years with chimio, work helped me to survive.
Good luck, Juan
by deezin on Thu May 28, 2009 12:00 AM
sorry to hear about your husband.
My husband also works 12 hr. shifts has just finished 5th chemo treatment.
He is on short term disability intermittent which his job never had anyone request but they did get it approved. Your husband may want to look into this. Just takes off as needed and gets full pay.
My husband goes to work and may stay 6- 8 hrs. instead of 12 hrs. and on chemo week he actually went to work while on the 1st 3 treatments with the pump but now he needs the whole week off Monday he is going back to work but does not put the 12hrs in he leaves early whenever he has to.
Have your husband check into intermittent short term disabilit it's working out great for my husband.
Any questions just ask.
by 500smwhr on Thu May 28, 2009 12:00 AM
I was diagnosed in 2004 with Stage IV terminal lung cancer. Despite being told I had less than a year to live, I am still here... five years later.
I had chemotherapy every Friday, and radiation for 56 treatments. I continued to work. On days that were really bad and I felt too tired to travel (I drove 1.5 hours each way), I worked from home.
I have to say that staying active in my job made a huge difference for me. I had something to focus on each day that kept my mind occupied, and I also remained in the social network of the office, which keeps you from feeling isolated, depressed, etc. On the days I chose to stay home and work, I didn't seem to be quite as positive as I was on the days I worked. Being home alone gives you too much time to think, and it can be lonely and depressing.
I did drink alot of healthy juices and ate alot of vegetables (as many as I could stand), and I also took a good multivitamin and an immune booster.
I think it's really a matter of choice for your husband. You don't say if he has the option to work less than 14 hours a day. I can't even imagine an employer expecting a health person to work a 14 hour day. That's a bit much. I work 10 hour days with a 2 hour commute, and it's about as much as I can stand in a day. I am exhausted when I get home, and I am not currently going through treatments.
I hope he can make a special arrangement with his employer to come up with a workable plan that will enable him to keep his job and work less hours while doing so.
Many prayers go out to you and your husband.
Keep the faith.... and don't ever give up the fight.
by Maximum on Thu May 28, 2009 12:00 AM
I have NHL and like your husband tolerated the chemo pretty well. I scheduled my treatments for every third Friday and recovered on weekends. I was able to work everyday that I wasn't recieving a treatment and believe that helped me as much mentally as it did physically. A couple of things to keep in mind though his immune system is compromised and the risk of getting sick has to be continually in the forefront of his mind to reduce risks. Also depending on the physical and mental demands of his work reduced hours may be appropriate, by no means should he work to the point of exhaustion. Excercise is real good I believe but over doing it would not be wise.
good luck and God bless
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