the unknown

On 5/31/2009 cna_sandy wrote:

i don't know how to get started but it just hit me in the head like a brick yesterday and it just kills me to watch my husband of 47 years setting there while others are talking and he wanted to say something and could not because of his operation on may the 5th removal of the vouice box. he had tears in his eyes and it made me so sad and angry at the same time. i know it will take time but i am not sure if i am as strong as i thought i would be. i pray to God he will guide us as we go through this stage.

On 6/1/2009 jr449 wrote:

 

On 5/31/2009 cna_sandy wrote:

i don't know how to get started but it just hit me in the head like a brick yesterday and it just kills me to watch my husband of 47 years setting there while others are talking and he wanted to say something and could not because of his operation on may the 5th removal of the vouice box. he had tears in his eyes and it made me so sad and angry at the same time. i know it will take time but i am not sure if i am as strong as i thought i would be. i pray to God he will guide us as we go through this stage.

I dont know know what to say, i havnt been through ( i cant even put a percentage on it  ) or even imagine what your husband and you have been through , but i pray that you can find the strenght and remain FAITHFUL THAT EACH NEW DAY  will help him get stronger and learn how to cope with all of this. I truly BELIEVE IN THE MIRACLE OF PRAYER .,AND OUR LORD WILL DO THE REST. TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS BOTH OF YOU

On 6/1/2009 cna_sandy wrote:

 

On 6/1/2009 jr449 wrote:

 

On 5/31/2009 cna_sandy wrote:

i don't know how to get started but it just hit me in the head like a brick yesterday and it just kills me to watch my husband of 47 years setting there while others are talking and he wanted to say something and could not because of his operation on may the 5th removal of the vouice box. he had tears in his eyes and it made me so sad and angry at the same time. i know it will take time but i am not sure if i am as strong as i thought i would be. i pray to God he will guide us as we go through this stage.

I dont know know what to say, i havnt been through ( i cant even put a percentage on it  ) or even imagine what your husband and you have been through , but i pray that you can find the strenght and remain FAITHFUL THAT EACH NEW DAY  will help him get stronger and learn how to cope with all of this. I truly BELIEVE IN THE MIRACLE OF PRAYER .,AND OUR LORD WILL DO THE REST. TAKE CARE AND GOD BLESS BOTH OF YOU

i hope when you go back to the doctors tomorrow that he will be able to give you some answers that will help .i know that i always look forward to going to the doc for reasurance that things are getting better and if not then what is the next course of action. I feel for you because i can understand that this is your mate of so many years and you must feel helpless in trying to make things better for him. It will get better you just have to BELIEVE. KEEP THE FAITH AND ASK GOD FOR THE STRENGHT TO ENDURE. I wish you the both the best and hope you get the answers you need from the doc that will help make his recovery time less painful.. STAY STRONG AND GOD BLESS

 

i know God knows all things even befor we ask. and only through him can i do the best i can. we go back to baylor tomorrow to see dr. and i want him to answer why he is having so much trouble it has been a month now and worst than he was when he went in. and thanks for getting back with me. i rattle a lot just to get things out in the air i guess God bless you sandy

On 5/31/2009 cna_sandy wrote:

i don't know how to get started but it just hit me in the head like a brick yesterday and it just kills me to watch my husband of 47 years setting there while others are talking and he wanted to say something and could not because of his operation on may the 5th removal of the vouice box. he had tears in his eyes and it made me so sad and angry at the same time. i know it will take time but i am not sure if i am as strong as i thought i would be. i pray to God he will guide us as we go through this stage.

Hi Sandy.   My spouse had his voicebox removed on October 31, 2008 so I can completely understand what you are going through.  But, just know that it WILL get better!   At first my husband had to write everything on a white erase board.  When he finally was able to begin using an electrolarynx, I have to admit it wasn't very clear.  As time passes, this really does improve.  He now is able to talk on the phone and be understood by his children that live in other states.  (Not sure what state you are in, but FL provided us with a special phone with an electrolarynx attached right to it.  The quality is great.  You might want to check with your state. )  Remember, every day he will heal a little bit more.  My husband had his feeding tube removed and is now able to eat things like spaghetti and ice cream.   We truly are thankful that he had the surgery and are enjoying life once again.   My coworkers tell me repeatedly how strong I am.  I think the secret is to celebrate even milestone in the healing process......no matter how small..........and a lot of prayer.  I will try to watch the site in case you ever want to communicate....or reach out to me directly.

you might both need to check out sign language classes.  It is a recognized language and it would open up both your worlds. It is something I may have to consider - my husband is very heard of hearing and I had cancer on my vocal cord and can only whisper.  We talked about today.

Where there is a will, there is a way.  Check it out.

Kris