aggiebill,
Sorry you are having this problem. Your doctor at the VA really should have given you more and better info about your medical condition.
From your description, a good guess is that you may have Autosomal Dominant Polycystic Kidney Disease which affects adults, often for the first time between the ages of 30 and 40 years old. This disease may also cause cysts in the liver, pancreas, membranes that surround the brain and central nervous system and seminal vesicles. There may be other complications such as hypertension, back and side pain due to enlarged kidneys, abdominal pain, enlarged abdomen, frequent urination, kidney stones, kidney infections and kidney failure.
While it is not always so, this disease has the potential to cause serious problems for you so you really should be under the care of a nephrologist (kidney specialist) on a regular basis. If you have health insurance and can afford to see a private specialist, I would advise that you do so rather than continue your care at the VA. In my opinion, VA doctors are not always the best; several years ago my brother died from metastatic colon cancer that had been mis-diagnosed as an ulcer by his VA doctors. By the time the true nature of his disease was determined, it was far too late for any treatment. He was gone in a few weeks. Thus I am hesitant to recommend treatment by VA doctors.
Good luck.
Joan L