to fight or not

I just rec'd the pathology report that says I've got Uterine Cancer, FIGO 3, clear cell.  Have been told that a hysterectomy and removal of lymph glands up to heart is first course of treatment.  Also, that I could bleed out in during surgery.  Then it will be staged and then chemo starts.  I've read that survival for 3 yrs is anywhere from 39 to 65%.  If I don't fight this, what is the approx length of survival?  If I fight it, is there a signinifcant difference?  And how badly will my quality of life deteriorate? 

Except for a dog & a couple of kitties,  I live alone & will be going thru this alone.  Have 2 elderly parents and a brother who live in another state.  No children.  Boyfriend has bailed.  My other friends have their own lives & families. 

Thoughts anybody?

 

 

 

While it is your personal decision, I would say yes, fight it with all you got. You could be one of the fortunate ones who ends up being cured ! AS far as bleeding out, while that can be a risk, it is probably very unlikely. You will be fine going through surgery. So your boyfriend bailed - there are other men out there - get yourself through this battle and go about living your life.

I can only say fight, fight fight do not give up.....what would your loving pets do without you....fight if only for yourself and them If boyfriend bailed its his problem not yours

Sandy

More of the issue of fighting alone. Have been told that I'm going to need somebody around (like right after surgery) & there simply isn't anybody other than from some service (which I can NOT afford cuz ins. won't pay).

 

I felt the same way for a short time, and it still creeps in once-in-a-while.  I have the added burden of being very overweight and was told they can't treat me with radiation because of my size. I'm also not a surgical candidate because of this. My only chance of survival is hormone therapy and losing enough weight. I'm trying very hard, but did I mention that one of the hormones, Megace, is a powerful appetite stimulant?

I guess I'm just trying to give you the "it could be worse" lecture, and that you likely have more to live for than you're allowing yourself to believe right now.

With regard to needing some temporary help after surgery, ask your oncologist if they have a social worker on staff, or through the hospital where you have the surgert. Your insurance might cover home health care in the form of a nurse several times a week for several weeks coming to your home to make sure you're healing okay. The SW may also know of emergency state funds that might be available if you are low-income. She may have other possibilities.

Gloria, You wrote your message 3 months ago but I am just reading it now. I was wondering how you are? did your surgery go ok? Were you able to have health care workers come into your home a few times a week and help you?

Going through any type of cancer is bad and stressful but going through it alone is unimaginable, my heart goes out to you. I hope you are well and that everything went ok. If ever you need to talk don't hesitate to email me.

As for should you fight or not, yessssssss, every second of every day is precious.

My prayers are with you.