On 6/17/2009
Anne63 wrote:
My husband is only 51 and has prostate cancer. His PSA is 4.1 his Gleason is a 7 (3+4). He does not want to be impotent or incontinent. What should he do? I have not seen anything on this site about Proton therapy any reason for that?
Hi Anne63,
I am 53 and was diagnosed with prostate cancer just before my 47th birthday. My PSA was 4.6 w/ Gleason of 7. My Urologist said that radical removal was the way to go for someone at this "younger age". I was also able to get in quickly to Loma Linda for a second opinion (one of the few places that had Proton Generator at the time) since my wife had contacts within that hospital group. That doctor agreed to the type of treatment, but he also noted that since I lived in a town known for retirees that my own doctor was most likely well experienced in these issues. Both doctors were quite casual about side effects from surgery which I found to be irritating. But the general consensus was it needed to be done. Please forgive me if I get too detailed but I think that I should be letting people know that it is possible to come through this.
I did have the surgery at my home town in May of '03 and have now just passed my 6 year mark. I've been feeling a little guilty that I haven't taken the time to post anything about it and I think that many of the postings come from people who have had more problems than I have. I've been one of the lucky ones so far and I thought that I should share my experiences with others who are facing the same things.
Obviously it is invasive surgery and it takes a while to recover. Figure 3 to 4 weeks with no lifting for 6 weeks. But by the 4th week I was feeling quite good. Driving may be limited for those first weeks as well, not that we can't do it, but having to make a panic stop might cause problems. They do a biopsy of the removed tissues after surgery and my doctor said that there were more type 4 cells than in the initial biopsy, but that there were none on the edge of the prostate. He didn't know if the cells had grown since the initial biopsy or if the biopsy needle just hadn't hit those areas when first tested.
That's the basic surgery. As for other the other issues, it was several months before I was able to have an erection and at that needed the help of Viagra or the others. I happened to be going through this right when Cialis & LeVitra (spelling?) came out so I got to sample all 3. Viagra worked but made me flush and if I lost the benefits too soon, they did not come back. I liked Cialis, but I have to admit that I had tried that more than a month after the Viagra, so my body may have responded better just because of the healing process. I do know that my surgery was May 5th and it was Feb 13th (day before Valentines Day) that was the first time I didn't use the drugs for help. After the first year I haven't needed the help. I think my doctor was even surprised at that, so he must have done a good job.
As far as urinary issues, about the only thing I have noticed is that if I'm sitting for quite a while and drinking liquids, I will be fine until I stand up and start moving around. The moving around will give me the urge to pee and I need to do so fairly soon. Other than that I don't have problems. I do have to pay attention to those circumstances is all.
My doctor had said that orgasms are mental and that we can still have them even though the prostate is gone and there is no ejaculation. It seems strange, but it does work and those activities are still enjoyable. It is not something that I even think about much any more.
There are new treatments. I've had a friend who has used the seeded pills, but he was considerably older that I was when diagnosed. They are also making improvements in their ability to narrow the focus of the radiation treatments considerably too. That is where my comments may be outdated and why I suggest getting the professional opinions. But at least with the PSA tests they are finding this much sooner. They would have had no reason to biopsy me without out the PSA tests until much later.
This is something nobody wants to go through, but it is possible to
survive it with a minimal affect on lifestyle. My wife and I came
through it fine and I have my PSA tested regularly (down to once a year
now). It did take a little while for the PSA to totally drop down but
it has. I do encourage people to get a second opinion and I sincerely
hope that everything goes well for your husband and you.