Missing you dad 5/21/09

On 6/23/2009 Thereishope wrote:

I felt like I needed to make myself more clearer about the things that bothered me.  The things that bothered me a million times were the wrong choices my mom made like the wrong doctors, getting the wrong advice, and the like even though she was health conscious.  I come to this site wondering if my mom had taken this path or that path, would she still be here with us?

Hello Ivy:

Its sounding like you are depressed yourself. There is help available; your pastor, local support groups, American Cancer Foundation, local hospitals, etc.

In my meetings with other cancer patients, they all seem to me to have some degree of depression. Some are better able to handle it than others. I have yet however, to meet a cancer patient that is happy or optimistic about their cancer.

Family members and friends of cancer patients have a difficult time of it too; the guilt, loss, regret, etc. are all there. For serious issues, there are places to go for help.

At 45 with two little kids to support, there is alot on my shoulders. I learn to cope as best I can.

Man, its time to move on from here and this is all I will say concerning this post.

Krys  

no don't be sad. i believe anyone can beat this. having good faith and hope helps. how have you been?

On 6/18/2009 Ike4y wrote:

Ohhh, wow.

Sorry, but that is a very depressing post. Kind of brings me down a lot and makes me think,  is that what I have to look forward to?

As someone fighting cancer myself,  I always fear a prolonged painfull death.

Krys

Melissa, my heart goes out to you and the rest of your family. It is a terrible loss and of course you miss your dad every day, every hour. My father died 2 years ago of a heart condition after a month of hospitalization and I talk to him every day, morning and night. There is not a day when I don't miss or think of him. Your dad must have been a great person, that's why you and others in your family love him so much. Cancer is a terrible monster, and those of us who fight it daily know way to well what this disease steals from us and from our loved ones. There is nothing I can say to comfort you. I will keep you in my prayers so that you get the strength to live each day to the fullest despite the pain of your loss. And yes, this is the right place for you and anybody else to vent about loss.

 Monica