Hi Kah49,
I was stage III, had chemo, mastectomy, more chemo and radiation with a couple extra rounds thrown in for good measure, all in that order. I was definately not a candidate for implants. I had a DIEP flap instead of the TRAM flap. The DIEP does not take the abdominal muscle, they just use the fat and tissue to build the new breast. Yes it was a long surgery but I would do it all over again, I could not be happier. With the implants you have to have them replaced every so often, with a DIEP you have the surgery and you are done! Since they do not take the abdominal muscles in the DIEP, it is a much easier recovery. I also have had a hystorectomy and would have the DIEP over the hystorectomy any day :~). With the DIEP you get a tummy tuck and a new boob, what more could a woman want?
When I was going through club chemo, I learned so much from the other women, the one thing that really sealed the deal for me was when one woman told me that her implants were the most uncomfortable thing she has ever done. She said they sit on her chest like 2 big hard rocks, just something to think about. I would throughly research and ask other women who have had implants, ask your surgeon if you can talk to other women who have had the procedure you are leaning towards. If you are only having one side done, just think what the other side will look like, you will have one perky breast and one saggy breast. The DIEP breast expands and contracts naturally as your weight fluxuates and it always looks natural and it is soft, not hard like implants. It feels like it is a part of me and not an add on.
I hope my experience helped and best of luck to you on your decision.
Teresa