Happy Belated 4th of July Melinda-
I am a 40 year old male and had the whipple procedure done on April 28th 2009 at UIC in Chicago. I didn't do much research as to how the recovery would be in fear that I would scare myself during the anticipation. I remember it well, in fact I don't think I will ever forget it. The first few days were pretty intense, just take the drugs and sleep it off. If you find yourself in a "bad" mind set the first few days, just tell yourself,"it will get better". BEFORE you go in, find a memory, a ZEN moment, a paradise during your life that brought your such joy and hold onto that memory when you feel the pain, basically try to get your mind in a better place. I was in ICU (standard) for three days then to a regular room. I was up walking 10 to 15 steps the first day after surgery, by day three I was doing one lap around the wing 3 x a day. I was out of the hospital on day six. Probably premature, but I am not the type of person who can just sit there.
Here is a MIRACLE for you... After the eight hour surgery, and removing part of the head of the pancreas, part of the duodinum, stomach and 17 of the nastiest looking lymph nodes the surgeon had seen. The surgeon said during surgery he just shook his head because of the size and color of the lymph nodes that I would have one hell of a fight on my hands with cancer. The pathology reports came back two weeks later and there was not one trace of cancer, nothing notta zip. Everyone is amazed and even had the samples sent out for a third testing. I am not a religious person but had many praying for me so the only thing I can say is it was a miracle. In my diagnosis with a needle biopsy they found A typical cells and from the MRI the size of the mass on the pancreas was 1.5 cc. they said I was stage 2 Adenocarcinoma. At this point, 9 weeks after surgery, I am considered cancer free and do not even have to do chemo or radiation.
Play it by ear on visitors. I literally did not want anyone near me for the first few days.
IMPORTANT- You will go through an emotional roller coaster with this surgery. I was so sad and emotional the first few days (and still) but getting better. It is normal and just go with them. Get it out, let it out, you will have plenty of time to deal with it....Also, I joined a web page called Carepages.com. It is free and you and a family member can put updates on it. This was a tremendous help to my family as they did not have to call everyone (friends, cousins, etc): everyone got an email that there was an update on my status. Plus I had my lap top in the hospital so it was great to read the responses everyone leaves to the updates.
Sorry this is long, but so is the surgery. As my father said to me before I had surgery, "It is in God's hands. What we don't understand or can't deal with, HE will take on for us". I gave it to God and was blessed with a miracle. Stay strong, find your Zen place and good luck. Please update us --I will be praying for you-