my mum

Hi   Guys

         My mum is in late stages of multimyloma ,but also has reflux and castlemans diseise. She has been in terrible pain and even though the pathway to care and hospital are doing all they can ,it seems so cruel she only has her hearing left she has had not even water in over a wk as she canot swallow. she is just starving to death .they have uped the morphine dose but seems they can do no more , Its a slow horrible death  and not one you would wish on your worst enermy, I lost my dad to cancer 10 years ago thought it couldnt get any worse but how wrong i was .I nursed him at home and we went into the local hospice for last 24 hours. mum has been in hospital since xmas 2008. She was transfered to local community hos with only gp care 5 wks ago but went down very fast. I feel i am letting her down and i am at my wits end to know what i can do to help her all people keep telling me is drs can be sued they have to be careful so i guess that means they cant help her . the law is so wrong in cases like this ...

 

Cassy,  I am so sorry for what you are going through with you Mum.  It may be that she is holding on wanting to make sure that you are OK.  If you have not told her you will be OK you might want to consider doing so.  When my father passed, both my sister and I were there holding his hand telling him that it was OK and that we would look out for our mother.  It was one of the hardest things I have had to do; until my husband became ill with cancer.  When the time comes for him, I pray to have the strength to help him let go and not worry about me or the kids.  I hope that you find some peace with this and pray that you Mum will be at peace.