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My father was digonied with lung cancer about 5 years ago. It has been about 5 years now and i notice a big change in him. His eating habits he eats very little next to nothing.He is rapily losing weight he now weight 120 pounds and his 6'1 .He has told me that he has no intrest in food. He is sleeping most of the time and when he is not sleeping he not really with us I can be talking to him and he will fade away. There are somedays where he can sit,but today he was unable to sit for his bath and even on the toilet .He is having a lot of bowel movments but he is unable to let us know when he has to go. I have noticed that he hold his blankets alot.His face is very cold at times and go grayish in color.He only able to speck a few word then he is out a breath he mumbels alot to were i cant understand what he is say.My children where just there a few days ago and I think he was saying his good bye to them. He was telling them how proud he is of them and that he knows that they will do  go thing in life. That same day when i was alone with him he expressed his feelings about the cancer and that he know the end is near. Since then I have been crying most of the days i went to my doctors he took me out of work for a month to spend time with my father and i am set up to meet with dr to help me thought process.My Question how do i know when the finel weeks of life are here. He does not what hospic there were coming out and he had a bad exprince with them

On 7/14/2009 christine37 wrote:

My father was digonied with lung cancer about 5 years ago. It has been about 5 years now and i notice a big change in him. His eating habits he eats very little next to nothing.He is rapily losing weight he now weight 120 pounds and his 6'1 .He has told me that he has no intrest in food. He is sleeping most of the time and when he is not sleeping he not really with us I can be talking to him and he will fade away. There are somedays where he can sit,but today he was unable to sit for his bath and even on the toilet .He is having a lot of bowel movments but he is unable to let us know when he has to go. I have noticed that he hold his blankets alot.His face is very cold at times and go grayish in color.He only able to speck a few word then he is out a breath he mumbels alot to were i cant understand what he is say.My children where just there a few days ago and I think he was saying his good bye to them. He was telling them how proud he is of them and that he knows that they will do  go thing in life. That same day when i was alone with him he expressed his feelings about the cancer and that he know the end is near. Since then I have been crying most of the days i went to my doctors he took me out of work for a month to spend time with my father and i am set up to meet with dr to help me thought process.My Question how do i know when the finel weeks of life are here. He does not what hospic there were coming out and he had a bad exprince with them

I think you can contact Hospice or visit one of their facilities and they will still give you information and a handbook.  They are there to help and understand not everyone wants their services.  It is unfortunate your Dad had a bad experience but that happens.

Once you make contact I am sure what they say will put your mind at ease and give you guidelines.

I wish you the best, if I can help, please email me.

There is a book called Final Gift it's written by hospice nurses.  It will help you to understand what is happening.  It's not a long book but I found it to be very helpful.  My husband has cancer and because I read the book when he starts talking about dreams and other things I understand now because I read the book.  I encourage you to read it and let me know if it was helpful.

I pray that God gives you and your family the strength to get through this difficult time.

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