What is The Best Way to Deal With my Dad's Cancer?

thanks vinnie,
So glad to get your message... It has been a rough week... My dad is still in the hospital..I have stayed with him all day and enjoyed every bit of it... For some reason his speech is going and we can not understand alot of stuff that he says and he gets upset but we are trying our best to make him happy.. I spent the whole day there and I was glad to have gotten to do that and my kids went up to see him today... I think that kind of made him happy... We got alittle bit of a smile.. I just don't know if he is going to pull out of this or not... We are praying everyday and they finally did give him some Chemo today i didn't think they could do that with him sick but they said he really needed it so they gave him some.. Maybe that will help some... But he is a fighter and that helps... But thank you for talking with me... My husband is here for me but it helps to have someone else too...Thanks cindy

Hi Cindy,

I, too, was very glad to hear from you!

I do hope that this your dad gets through this hospital stay. My dad's voice changed also. We could understand him, but it totally changed. You are doing the right thing. Just talk to him and let him see and feel your love for him. It will make all the difference in the world.

I am here for you. I must say that I have met some really caring people on this site. I hope that all of you know how much you have made a difference in my life.

Hang in there.

Vinnie

Vinnie,

Well Just got your message and just wanted to let you know... My dad passed away Saturday night.... This has been a long hard week.. But i know now he is not suffering.... I do already miss him and I'm fixing to go through the hardest thing that i think i have ever had to do.. The recieving friends is tomorrow night then the furnel the next...So just pray i make it through this.. Well i am off just wanted to let you know whats up.. talk to ya later
cindy

Cindy,

I am very sorry to hear of your dad's passing. It saddens my heart to know that you are suffering, but I do agree with you...he is in a better place.

If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. I would send flowers, but we can't exchange addresses on this website. There has to be a way, though, as long as we give permission.

Again, I am praying for you and your family. I always say that the cancer lost when my dad passed. It could do no more harm. It met its match and God has taken my dad and your dad and wrapped His arms around them and taken them home.

God Bless You!

Vinnie Burgess

My sister of 64 years old was recently dx with lung and brain cancer. the options will be laid out next week. My background is nursing, however rusty, so I'm used as an interpreter and guide. We are already receiving mixed messages regarding treatments, surviving the treatment, quality of life with treatment and more. The family, her devistated husband, are grieving and gathering info at the same time. I am new to this website and am learning from your questions, your experiences and your advise already. If there are specific thoughts that would be helpful at this stage, I usre would appreciate. A game plan that was said in this preliminary stage includes: get to the brain with radiation and then chemo for the lung. I donot know what type of lung, small cell vs. non small cell but fact that it is metastacized to the brain tells us it is probably small (oat) cell. But, I'm needing information and I'm already cncerned about the radiation onc coordinating with the chemo oncologist. We are in Chicago-land, if any suggestions on treatment centers, I coulduse those tips too. This is very hard. Thank you for any thoughts. MLC

Since my last posting. My dad was doing well emotionally and
physically. Until two weeks ago, he has become very
depressed!. Just yesterday, when I asked him how is was doing
he said, " I am in hell. I was caught off guard. So I drove over
to where he was and brought my new baby Yorkie to see him. I
thought that would cheer him up a puppy giving him love. His
response was I don't want the dog to kiss me because I don't
want him to get cancer. My dad thinks he will infect the
puppy? Hve you heard of that before?? I am at a loss.. at what to do.. I try all the time to cheer my dad up!! He is always grumpy, hanging up in mid conversations, wants to go back to bed... WE have told the doctor of his depression. Instead of prescribing something for the depression. He asked my dad how is doing and being a "man" he said I am doing o.k. So this Wednesday is the last of the four cycles and I plan to speak with the oncologist directly. I need to help my dad so he can smile again. :o)...
I am at a loss on how to help my dad have some normalcy during this difficult time. Any suggestion would be greatly appreciated!!!
After this cycle they will being doing another PET scan to
check him and see where we are.
SLR

Thank you for still checking in even after your own dad pasted. You are such a caring person.