I think our oncologist hemmed and hawed a bit within herself about Patrick. He was 49, and otherwise healthy, and for some odd reason the gastroenterologist sent us to her fully expecting she was going to treat him successfully and he would survive, when his prognosis was actually around six months. He had trained at Lahey and knew the surgeon and highly recommended her, so we never considered going to Boston if we could stay outside the city. The oncologist had a stage 3 who had responded to our treatment, so we pushed on, hoping we could get to the point where Dr Williamson could do the surgery. That was our goal from the start. I don't think it's standard treatment for a stage 4, but sometimes you just find the right people who are willing to push for you. We talked about surgery from the start, but it wasn't assured because of the mets, but it didn't stop us from going the aggressive route and radiating to shrink the tumor. It was very difficult, he was really sick from side effects and he lost a lot of weight because he had been having trouble swallowing for a while before he was diagnosed, but we did it.
I know everyone is different, and sometimes there are other reasons they can't use radiation, but frequently it's just because it's not the general standard of care and doesn't fit into the flow chart. Did they do the team approach when you saw Dr Enzinger, so you know Dana Farber wouldn't have done radiation either, or did you just go for gastro oncology consult?
I know I mentioned Denver. I know of another person who went there after being given palliative care by their original doctor and they were willing to treat more aggressively in Denver, but unfortunately he was too far gone by then to make it. I know our PA oncologist is out of the office this week, or I might ask her if she had any idea about someone in the Boston area who might treat aggressively.